Sexual Frustration

[crystalgaze]

Wow.... I can't believe she said that..... (WHAT?!) How mean AND rude!

This may sound strange.... but if someone else tells you that.... I think you should respond with "Oh really?" and ask why the person thinks so (sarcasm, of course).

I'm not saying anything is wrong with you, but if you don't already know what people are thinking about you, it may be a good idea to find out. (I know once someone spread bad rumors about me. That's why I'm saying it. Also, sometimes, I look quite unfriendly, which is the opposite of how I really am.)

Unfortunately, I get the same thing. Personally, I think it's kinda funny, but I'm a gal, though. Everyone thinks I'm gay, but that's okay because....

THEY ARE NOT WORTH MY TIME. LATER FOR THOSE PEOPLE. I'll stay by myself before I entertain them. (Hmph! ~waves a finger~ I'm not going to say which one. )


I know how you feel, though.... I feel the sex-relationship thing can add to depression (like when the person doesn't treat you properly) as well as subtract from it (relieve tension, etc., if the situation is a good one)....

Anyway, it may be hard to find someone, but are you looking? Where are you looking? How are you looking?

Oftentimes, I feel I can't connect with people where I live.... Can you try another state/county/spot a bit away from where you live? Or meet someone through what you love to do?

I'll be honest and say that I was happier after having sex/making love with someone I liked. Don't give up hope! Be a little bold, if you are not usually so. ***Just be careful....but go for it!!*** <---(That's my motto.)

I hope you find someone soon!

[Warmsoul/Jeanie13]

I believe, life gives us test, perhaps this is one of them. Having a relationship is normal, and in fact wonderful to have, experience, live. But there is more to a relationship than the sexual part.

People will think the worse of you, if you don't do as they think you should, agree with their opinions or be a puppet in their life. True to yourself, listen to that inner voice. The right person will come along, when you least expect it. Finding that true for myself, so yes, I am trying, as we all do.

Warmie

[crystalgaze]

Indeed, Warmie! ((((((Warmie and BrokenPen)))))))))

I agree that sex isn't everything. When I meet people (however few and far between that is), I always try to make sure that I am going in with the right intentions.

Besides, I think it is more fun when I have someone I can do things with, like go to the movies or a show or the beach, curl up with every now and then, etc., etc., etc. It's said variety is the spice of life.... I'd even like to get married... but it just hasn't worked out that way for me. (I'm still young anyway.)

Unfortunately, the people I trusted were not into that, and I was really saddened by one because it was someone I knew of for at least 10 years and he was the 1st person I wasn't nervous with. (I have always believed that I would know when I was with the right guy, if I weren't nervous/overly nervous.) It felt right, but it wasn't what he was about in the end. ~shrugs~ Oh well.... (The saving grace is that it wasn't an entirely bad experience.)

[BrokenPen]

Indeed, Warmie! ((((((Warmie and BrokenPen)))))))))

I agree that sex isn't everything. When I meet people (however few and far between that is), I always try to make sure that I am going in with the right intentions.

Besides, I think it is more fun when I have someone I can do things with, like go to the movies or a show or the beach, curl up with every now and then, etc., etc., etc. It's said variety is the spice of life.... I'd even like to get married... but it just hasn't worked out that way for me. (I'm still young anyway.)

Unfortunately, the people I trusted were not into that, and I was really saddened by one because it was someone I knew of for at least 10 years and he was the 1st person I wasn't nervous with. (I have always believed that I would know when I was with the right guy, if I weren't nervous/overly nervous.) It felt right, but it wasn't what he was about in the end. ~shrugs~ Oh well.... (The saving grace is that it wasn't an entirely bad experience.)

I know what you mean. There are times that I wish I had someone in my bed to cuddle and curl up with as well as to relieve this maddening tension.

[pablos]

for me while sex can be enjoyable but it is meaningless without a truely loving and caring relationship. I don't enjoy it unless there is mutual enjoyment and communiation before, during and after sex and for that matter in everyday matters.

[Obayan]

I lived in a sex-less marriage for 22 years. Never missed it. Still don't. What I miss is the tenderness and compassion and intimacy.

[Warmsoul/Jeanie13]

Most enjoyable moments in a relationship can be just being held with tenderness.

[WOMBLE]

HI, Just a thought, but is it the sex that you miss or physical comfort of holding someone?