I am new- and i really need some help :(

[Hannaadi88]

Hi! My name is Hanna, and as you can see, i am new here. I am 14 years old, and have recently been experiencing depression full force.

You see, i have met this girl online, and i have become great friends with her. The only problem is that we are in two different countries, with different friends. She has introduced me to her best friend, and i have come to feel jealously towards her even though i like her as well.

Whenever this friend of mine does not reply to my messages or i feel as if she is less fond of me, i fall into a deep depression. I loose my apatite, i sleep tons and still feel tired, i detach myself from my other friends... This has never happened to me before, and i just can't seem to stop feeling so depressive and paranoiac.

I hope to find here support and advice so that i may feel sure of myself again. I used to be so strong....

[crystalgaze]

Hi there Hanna! You can be strong again! Off the top of my head, I would say, "Don't worry!"

Next, I would ask, "What do you like to do? Do you have any hobbies?"

Now, read my post very carefully! (Thanks!)

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In relationships, I try to go for one that is reciprocal, meaning the two of you are on the same page some place--sort of like defining your friendship. What kind of friendship do you have with her?

Look at it & try to figure out what it is, so you know how to deal with it. You can even write it out to keep track of every thing.

Do you both talk about every thing? Are you two there for each other in hard times? Laugh, cry, play online games, etc. together?

For example, I have "friends" where we never really talk about any thing too deep, others where we talk about some deep things, but not others. You see?

Do your expectations & hers match? If yours are more, then step back a little, so you don't get hurt.

Are you neglecting your own health because of this? If so, it may be time to step back a little. (Not be online as much & work on building your own personal life more)

You want a friendship/relationship to complement your life vs. creating a dependency in you.

Compare yourself to how you were before you met her & how you are now. What is it exactly that you want to regain? Write it out & work toward regaining it. If you need help, create a post or something like that to get input!

If there's any thing you don't understand, say so. I will try to think of more things for you! Welcome to the forum & I hope you will feel better soon!

Just don't give up, alright?!

[Hannaadi88]

What do i like to do? Well, i love writing, acting, reading, fandubbing and sleeping

What kind of relationship do i have with her....
She is defiantly a one out of a hundred friend. I confide in her, talk to her, and love her dearly. At times. i think she may be taking the role of my best friend, though she lives in a different continent

I am sure that my expectations are much higher than hers, but she had also expressed wishes in meeting with me one day, perhaps when we are older. At times, she is the bold one who makes the important relationships moves (such as exchanging pictures, for example), and i rarely do, in fear that she will reject them and our relationship would be over. I get so depressed when i feel that she is bored or angry with me...
At the moment, we had just had a successful talk, in my opinion. But who knows? By the time you read this, i could be depressed once again for various reasons. Is there a way that i can control my emotions?

Thank you for all of your thoughtful suggestions! I shall indeed try them out. Thank you for the warm welcome as well.

Apparently, the world still cares =W=

[crystalgaze]

: ) Wow! It's good that you have things you like! That's really GOOD!

Keep with them! As for the friendship, just do your best! Also, have you talked over how you feel with her? Maybe it might be worth a shot. If she says "Don't worry" or something like that, trust her & just be yourself! (Take her at her word.)

I learned this one late but: It can actually be okay to be yourself!

Good for you! Glad to hear things are better! Keep your head up now!

[Warmsoul/Jeanie13]

Hi Hanna,

It is always good, when you can, to be yourself. Friendships on the computer are wonderful, keep then open and honest.

Jeanie