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beggybear
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Joined: Sat Dec 12, 2009 12:22 pm
Location: CHINA

hi,new here

Postby beggybear » Sat Dec 12, 2009 12:31 pm

hi,i am sara,i want to know where you guys from and is there any special and quickly treatment about depression in your homeland?
i just confused by the depression,am i gonna be all right?how?

CloverFella
Posts: 11
Joined: Fri Dec 11, 2009 8:48 pm
Location: Bay City, MI. USA

Postby CloverFella » Sat Dec 12, 2009 12:40 pm

Sara,

Welcome, I'm new here too. Unfortunately, I don't think there is a country in the world that has a 'quick fix' to depression. There are alot of resources out there, but in the end, we need to be strong for ourselves.

Seems daunting, I know. I've been in some pretty gloomy holes I never thought I'd climb from. Heck, I'm in one now. But knowing that I beat it before encourages me. I know I can again.

But that is why I'm here and I'm glad you're here. We can all help each other. Your going to be fine. Just let us know what is up and we will do the best we can to help you along this rough road.

My names Chris, whats up?

beggybear
Posts: 3
Joined: Sat Dec 12, 2009 12:22 pm
Location: CHINA

about me

Postby beggybear » Sat Dec 12, 2009 1:49 pm

now i am bored
am a 20-year-old student
i bought a train ticket to home this evening,
now in china ,the time is 02:25am.
but i am not sure that if i go home or not
coz i will attend an exam in a month
you know its very hard for me to be alone in
another place far away from my home town,
always feel lonely,no friends or relatives here.
no caring,no warm,feel cold and do nothing.
i cant get myself into what i supposed to do.
so i want to go home find some warm,maybe then
i can do the things i should do.
but if i go home,i will let my parents down,
they must be very anxious and ashamed about me.
i always let them disappointing,
i cant find myself,
cant find the way out.

i have suffered from depression for about six years,
i dont know what to say about this desease,
its been so long that i dont want to say my story
again and again,i feel tired.
just cant get out by meself,but who can help except myself?
so hard for me to bear....

not confident,nothing interests me,
have no power to study,confusing about life.
have few friends


o,sorry to say much useless things
pardon my poor english

chris ,thank u!o(∩_∩)o

CloverFella
Posts: 11
Joined: Fri Dec 11, 2009 8:48 pm
Location: Bay City, MI. USA

Postby CloverFella » Sat Dec 12, 2009 2:01 pm

Sara,

I know there are some cultural differences between China and the U.S. but I can't imagine a parent being truly ashamed of their child. Perhaps upset, but I'd imagine forgiving.

Would you be able to go home to see your family, and then make it back in time for the exam? Is it possible to get someone from your family to come out to see you?

I know what loneliness feels like. I spent a few years in the military far away from my family. A good portion of that time was spent in Iraq with no friends (didn't get along with anyone in my unit) and definitely no family. I felt lost and made some rushed choices that only added to my stress and depression. I would of been better off taking a step back and looking at the situation rather then act out of impulse.

At the time however, I know there was no way I could of thought about it rationally. You may be in this same situation right now. I'm not sure of the effect your particular case has on you, but from my experience, if I would of sat down and weighed the pro's and con's to my choices, I might of saved myself alot of heart ache.

You're right in saying no one can ultimately help you but yourself, though there are a few friendly faces along the way. I assume by your taking an exam, your in a university of sorts. Does the school have any councilors to talk to?

Depression is an ongoing illness. There is no complete cure for it, only means of coping. I was fine for years up until this most recent life changing event. I'm confident that I'm going to make it through this, and I feel pretty good that if you take time and don't act solely on impulse, you'll be able to get through this too.

Life's confusing, just keep bouncing your ideas off of people you can trust. And own your decisions.

Sorry if any of my words are too complicated. I have a tendency of not using simpler words to portray my meanings. Your English is fine though =D

beggybear
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Joined: Sat Dec 12, 2009 12:22 pm
Location: CHINA

Postby beggybear » Sat Dec 12, 2009 3:08 pm

chris,
sure there are many differences between europe n asia,the way people thinking,the way people doing etc.
but am afraid that i used the unsuited word of ashamed,maybe not that serious.
i can back to school to attend my exam,but its very hard to get a ticket from our home to school in the period from january to feburary,coz its spring festival time,so many people want to back home by train from beijing,you know the population in china is so huge,by the way,i study in beijing,but my home is just far away from here. of course i can find some other way back to beijing,but its kinda complicated and it'll take some troubles.my parents dont understand that why i do so,its nearly the exam time!
hehe,but i just cant stand the life here which i just metioned.

you said you have spent afew years in the military in iraq,thats excited(just imagine) but also with some dangers.though i dont know much fact about the life in iraq, you r so brave!no matter what have happened,they are all the past,better dont review the displeased things i think.

speaking of my study,sorry to tell u truth that i am not a real college girl since i graduated from high school,i just stay here study by myself and want to pass the exam called ielts which is important to me to go abroad.so there are few people who really care me or related to me,no classmates,no teacher,no school,seem to be alittle hard for me.before i came to beijing,ive never been to any city except my home,this is the first time i leave from home and stay in another city all by myself.

ive tried some medicine before,but not very good,i just cant go out by meself,so i decide to keep useing medicine help me out,but it seems like medicine cant manage all the problems that i met or will meet. and i dont want to have medicine for all my life,but no choice for me at present.
i want to try some chinese medicine to treat my desease,doctors in my country say that it can completely cure the depression by useing chinese medicine,they have thier own advantages . i'd rather believe that.hoping it can really helps me alot.

i'm so happy :lol: that you feel much better than ever,that makes me more confident about my desease.
i am very happy to talk with you,thank u for sharing your experiences with me too.
now time is 04:04 am,
i gotta go to bed,so tired,dont worry about me,i will try my best overcoming the sad mood.
you too,always enjoy yourself.
thank u :)

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xn728
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Location: united kingdom yorkshire

hello

Postby xn728 » Sun Dec 13, 2009 1:29 pm

hello beggybear ,sorry i wasnt around to say hello ,but ill say welcome home now ,and hope you find some peice in this wonderful place ,
today i came home after an illness ,and was uplifted ,look forward to
speaking in the future ,,,,,,bless you xn728


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