I was already doing pretty bad before I made the mistake of reading my old journals. Why is it that crap that happened more than 10 years ago still has the ability to upset me?
That's what my husband said, and at the time I closed up told him he didn't understand. But today I am in slightly better spirits, was uploading pics from the good times, and what he said made sense. What happened happened, it's over and done with. I do not feel in danger anymore, I feel safe and secure so how does the past still have the power to pull me down? I guess I am giving it the power, I have tried several mind exersises to try and get it out of my head. But it still has to power to consume me and make me vitually unable to do anything at all.
Why does the past still hurt us?
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Our past is part of who we are. It never goes away, we just learn to deal with it differently as we become older and wiser.
Your husband sounds like a very wise man, let his love and protection help you through those moments, don't be afraid to cry on his shoulder, share the past with him and plan a brighter future.
When remember the past, remember for every one bad memory, recall two good ones. Works for me, may sound silly, but it does help.
Take care
Warmie
Our past is part of who we are. It never goes away, we just learn to deal with it differently as we become older and wiser.
Your husband sounds like a very wise man, let his love and protection help you through those moments, don't be afraid to cry on his shoulder, share the past with him and plan a brighter future.
When remember the past, remember for every one bad memory, recall two good ones. Works for me, may sound silly, but it does help.
Take care
Warmie
Hi Jamie... it is strange how the past can come back out of nowhere, isn't it? Even if you think you have buried those memories deep inside, they still have the ability to hurt you, huh?
I am no doctor, but what seems to work for me somewhat, is to desensitize myself to things by reading them or thinking about them over and over again until they really become a true part of the past. Almost like studying, ya know? Until it becomes just another part of my brain...
I don't suggest this lightly, as I do not know you, Jamie, and as it will not work for everyone, I'm sure. But I wanted to throw another suggestion into the pot!
Luck to you...
I am no doctor, but what seems to work for me somewhat, is to desensitize myself to things by reading them or thinking about them over and over again until they really become a true part of the past. Almost like studying, ya know? Until it becomes just another part of my brain...
I don't suggest this lightly, as I do not know you, Jamie, and as it will not work for everyone, I'm sure. But I wanted to throw another suggestion into the pot!
Luck to you...
Hi Jamie,
Can't speak for anyone else but I can' figure out why I can't let just some of the crap go. Why do I dwell on the bad stuff and not appreciate all of the good things that happened.
It is like all the bad things of my 51 years are burned on my brain and the good stuff has just been pushed to the back.
I am glad though, that you are feeling better. It is always good to hear when one of our members is doing well.
Can't speak for anyone else but I can' figure out why I can't let just some of the crap go. Why do I dwell on the bad stuff and not appreciate all of the good things that happened.
It is like all the bad things of my 51 years are burned on my brain and the good stuff has just been pushed to the back.
I am glad though, that you are feeling better. It is always good to hear when one of our members is doing well.
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