I get overwhelmed very easily, need some help

[Tcrumpen]

I have an anxiety issue and whenever i try anything new i get very overwhelmed and in 9/10 circumstances i have a nervous breakdown and end up a complete mess, i normally have mechanisms to prevent me from getting out of control, problem is that whenever i get overwhelmed these mechanisms have NO effect

A case of this happened was when i went to dance event. Although i eventually conquered the overwhelming sense of the matter it took almost half the night and a lot of people got uncomfortable around me and particularly annoyed at me (I have a blunt friend so...)

Any ideas on how to deal with this would be appreciated

[cherrymcdowell]

If you're experiencing overwhelming rage, it could be damage your mental and physical health as well as your relationships with others. so, I suggest, try to seek a help from the doctors to give you a right treatment with your condition.

[Tcrumpen]

It's not rage, is fear and depression

[Jackson]

It's not rage, is fear and depression

I'm 59 years old now and have over 30 years of experience in the field of natural healing and social work. I spent most of those years working on my own healing process at the same time that I was working to help others in their own healing process. ....... I've gained a lot of wisdom along the way, as well as a pretty deep understanding of the psyche and the body/mind and how it all works together.

Since you asked here for advice, I have a couple of ideas for you which I will offer. ............. First off I would strongly advise you to find some way or vehicle available to you (preferably near where you live), where you can be of service to someone or someone's who are suffering or in greater need than you are. Look for a helping situation or situations which will put your own suffering into perspective and will provide you with a means to find true value in your presence here in this world. You can make a huge difference towards lessening the suffering of others. Even if it is just one individual. ... and in doing so, you will find that you are in truth helping yourself. ... In serving you are served. .......... Allowing one's own pain and suffering to absorb you is the surest root to one's own demise.

I would also recommend you look into the 12 step program called; "Emotions Anonymous". If you go to their web site you can do a search for regular meetings available in your area. ...Many individuals who suffered worse psych/emotional pain than you or I, have worked the 12 step program via EA and had great success towards their own healing. ... If you do find a meeting or meetings near you, find a "sponsor" among the members whom you feel can offer you wise counsel (someone who has worked the steps), and begin to work the program yourself.

Those are two ideas which you may find of value to you. .... * Peace

Oh, ... just wanted to add; .... The next time you find yourself experiencing the fear, ... see if you can become aware that you are feeling the fear, ... and just for a moment, .... choose to allow yourself to feel the fear more deeply. Choose to go into it more deeply and see if you can choose to more fully experience the feeling. In doing so you may find you are able to begin to move away from your fear of feeling the fear. ............ Fear, or any such psycho/emotional pain, is uncomfortable, yes, .... but it is only a feeling, and it has no more power over you than the power that you give to it. ......... You have to have fear of the fear in order for fear to have power over you. ... Yes, I know this that I am suggesting is easier said than done, but if you can do it a little more each time you experience the fear, you will find it to be a rather empowering and healing exercise.

[CitM]

I also get overwhelmed every time I start a new research project. It's wondering if I'm going to stay focused enough and healthy enough and be disciplined enough to finish well.

Here are some good ideas I know work.
1. There are times you will need to medicate if its so bad that it blocks your ability to perform on tests or quizzes or do your work.

2. Do not under estimate calendars. Get a large desk top calendar. If it doesn't not fit on your desk, rip off the month and tape it to the refrigerator and keep it updated with things that are due, stuff coming up, etc. That way, you can at least plan your days and not be late to important things.

3. Take a big task and break it up into smaller much more doable tasks. Ir the task in and of itself is just big and not easily compartmentalized, put a time limit on it for how much you want or can spend on it that day, REALISTICALLY. It might be as small as empty the bathroom garbage, for the larger task of taking the garbage out once a week. But stick with it each day taking out a different can each day and at the end of the week, your garbage has been taken out. See what I mean?

4. Work in blocks of time. If you're one of these people who try to keep taking on tasks like I do, then block out times that you'll do each task. If you run out of room, prioritized for the day, but do not exceed what you can really do in that day. You may not be as prepared or get as much done as you would like, but the point is, you will get things done and it won't take years either. Eventually, you'll be finding starting projects will be easier to start and finish.

5. In all of this, make sure you put in some "quality me" time. It is essential. AND make sure you do what is necessary to sleep well every night. That is essential too.