Dont want to get out of bed

[Play-Doh_25]

Im 19 in college and finishing my first year. I feel so lonely and sad all the time. I've never had problems with depression in the past but this year life has been really hard for me. I dont have many friends
and the ones I do have are more of acquaintances than actual friends. Ive just never been very good at making friends. I live alone in my dorm because my roommate got kick out. Most of the time I just stay in my dorm because I don't know what else to do. I dont even feel like getting out of bed. I dont feel comfortable telling my family, because I dont want them to think less of me or judge me. The worst part about it is that it's really starting to affect my classes. I'm a good student and do really good in my classes, but I've been struggling because I can barely find the motivation to finish my projects and go to class (Im in an art school btw). One of my professors sent me an email saying that he's worried about me and asking to talk about what's wrong. But I don't even know what to say. I really don't want to have to tell him the truth. That I'm so sad and depresssed. That I cry all the time. But I don't know what to do.

[FearfullyMade]

I am so sorry!!!! Um your family won't judge you I bet you they love you. Go to the one who you may think will judge you the least.
Once, I confessed to my lecturer that I am feeling depressed. He was so supportive - but the kind that shocked me though. He was so nice. Since your lecturer is actually seeking you out, he is probably very nice, supportive and understanding. Please go see him. He may surprise you.

If these options are super scary, how about you try out student counselling at your campus. They are so nice. They will understand.

I suck at making friends hey l also have aquaintences. I want to but I don't know how to do it. So yeah hey.. I get you ( well a little I hope)

[Emma18]

My anxiety makes it hard to get a job, or go out with friends, meet new people, try new things, go on dates, but not doing these things especially not having a job or dating definitely triggers my depression. Anyone else experience something similar? Advice maybe.................

[JonsDragonEyes]

Hey there Play-Doh_25. It's nice to meet you.

I'm sorry your having such a difficult time. I think FearfullyMade makes a great point. Family is a family always and I'm sure they wouldn't want you to suffer like this. I think it's time you talk to them.

If it's really too uncomfortable talking to your family then that's okay. How about your professor ?? If he wrote you an email and is worried about you it sure sounds like he cares. He may be a great place to start.

Holding your hurt inside you is one of the worst things you can do. It's very unhealthy. Please talk to someone. I think it will help you feel better.... at least you won't feel so alone. Nobody should have to go through something like that all by yourself.

And please come back here and keep us updated on how your doing so we don't worry. Okay ?

Love and Hugs

[Dane1228]

i can barely get out of bed either, play-doh. the only reason i do is because i have a dog and i am compelled to care for him. in fact, that is why i got the dog: so that i could make myself get out of bed. brushing teeth and showering and not wearing the same clothes are all still everyday challenges. i support you. as for not telling your family, i recommend that you look up college support therapists first and talk it out. that will get you used to describing how you feel to yourself, your family, and friends. please: get diagnosed so you can complete your studies and invest in your mental health now.

[Nel]

Im 19 in college and finishing my first year. I feel so lonely and sad all the time. I've never had problems with depression in the past but this year life has been really hard for me. I dont have many friends
and the ones I do have are more of acquaintances than actual friends. Ive just never been very good at making friends. I live alone in my dorm because my roommate got kick out. Most of the time I just stay in my dorm because I don't know what else to do. I dont even feel like getting out of bed. I dont feel comfortable telling my family, because I dont want them to think less of me or judge me. The worst part about it is that it's really starting to affect my classes. I'm a good student and do really good in my classes, but I've been struggling because I can barely find the motivation to finish my projects and go to class (Im in an art school btw). One of my professors sent me an email saying that he's worried about me and asking to talk about what's wrong. But I don't even know what to say. I really don't want to have to tell him the truth. That I'm so sad and depresssed. That I cry all the time. But I don't know what to do.

Hi Play-Doh_25

Are you still out there ? Firstly you are not alone in suffering depression at this stage - there are many people in their first year at uni/college who feel the same. I was one - and I cried a lot too. Please talk to your professor - he is obviously concerned about you and it is highly likely he has helped lots of his students in the same position. I got some counselling which helped - someone to talk to who won't tell anyone else.

Do/did you have friends at home or school ? What interests do you share with them ? Are these things you could get involved in now ? Colleges usually have lots of clubs and activities - could you join any of them ? I know it's hard when you're feeling so low but if you find something that interests you you will find like-minded people and that's where making friends often starts. I had little in common with the people on my course.
Even if you don't like sport or music or or or ... you must be interested in art. Are there any clubs or outings to go to galleries or lectures ? There may well be some of these in your local town/city which aren't associated with the college.

Do let us know how you're getting on. Thinking of you.

Nel

[NickStokes]

Start by asking for doctor's assistance.