Postby Ieris » Wed Dec 04, 2013 8:29 pm
Other people can tell you that you have let them down, you're worthless, a disappointment etc but haven't they also let you down? It is not a one way street, who is to say that YOU have to live up to THEIR expectations when they don't live up to yours. Why do you have to please them anyway? If you wipe away people's expectations of you, you probably won't feel like a failure.
There is no standard in life where you have to make x amount of money, marry by xx, have x kids, buy a house etc. Everyone wants different things, you make that choice not them, no matter who they are.
So often people like to put other people down just to cheat themselves into perfection. Don't let them use you like that, usually those people have no life that's why they have to talk about yours.
Of course there are people who just want to help, you have to build a barrier in your mind which weeds out the put downs from the good advice. Put downs are just opinions but they try to give it off as fact, never believe this rubbish as there are way more people who just have to "say something" compared those who actually have something to say. Learn to spot those! ^_^