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georgiapeach · Postby **georgiapeach** » Mon Feb 23, 2009 12:32 pm

ok so living with depression and living with my mom's health are not the easiest things in the world. i understand that no one said they would be but its just hard to live with someone who has CHF. for all that doesnt know what chf is, it is congestive heart failure. her heart is only at 10% and her daily activity is very limited. its difficult because im going through a lot currently and so is she. mom is dealing with the death of her dear husband. hence i have come to terms mildly that he is gone, she hasnt. maybe it is because he told me he had heart problems but never told mom and asked me to keep it a secret. so i guess i understood his death from a massive heart attack more than she did. after 6 months of him being gone i finally told her. so every day mom and i both struggle to make it through the day. Day by day is how i deal with life now. but anywhoo... i dont think i made a point in this post. oh well... oh here's the point. living with someone with depression then having someone else in the house with another health issue + depression isnt easy. so yep THE END

Warmsoul/Jeanie13 · Postby **Warmsoul/Jeanie13** » Mon Feb 23, 2009 4:09 pm

((((((((((((((((( Peachy )))))))))))))

But look at you sweetie, you are there for her, supporting her and loving her. That is all you can do. Cherish the moments that are good, give her reason to smile.

You just don't see what a special person you really are. You are going to be a wonderful mother on top of all this.

Things happen for reasons, we don't always understand then while in the mist of it all, but in time, it will all fall into place. Makes a better person out of each of us.

Be there, and just simply love her, for I am sure in that broken heart of hers she loves you.

You are loved!!

Warmie/Jeanie

aim · Postby **aim** » Mon Feb 23, 2009 4:57 pm

Peachy girl! Nice to see you posting!!! Jeanie is right... you are a strong and sweet girl who will make a great mom. :-)

Your mother's health problem on top of your depression is probably eating away at you. Make sure you make some time for yourself as well, ok? It's important for you to stay healthy in your current state. I know you love your mother and want to be there for her, but don't forget about Liz either, aright?

Be there for your mom as best you can without ignoring yourself, that's my best advice to you. And keep talking peachy girl! Keep posting! Getting feelings out take a giant weight off of you - I hope sharing your dad's health problem with your mother did that for you as well...

Stay as strong and positive as you are!!!

Warmsoul/Jeanie13 · Postby **Warmsoul/Jeanie13** » Mon Feb 23, 2009 5:35 pm

(((((((((((((((( Georgiapeach )))))))))))))))))

Here for you, please remember that.

Jeanie

georgiapeach · Postby **georgiapeach** » Tue Feb 24, 2009 7:28 pm

(((((((((((((((((((( jeanie and aim )))))))))))))))))))))))))))

yes jeanie, i will always remember that. and please know i am here for you also!!!!! all the time 24/7 you have my email addy so you can contact me whenever :p aim thanks for the comment. both of you have made me feel better :d love ya guys!!!

Warmsoul/Jeanie13 · Postby **Warmsoul/Jeanie13** » Tue Feb 24, 2009 9:37 pm

((((((((((((((((((( GeorgiaPeachy ))))))))))))))))

What would I do without you??

aim · Postby **aim** » Tue Feb 24, 2009 9:43 pm

((((((Peachy)))))))) Please take care of yourself and that little package of yours, ok? That baby is going to become your LIFE very soon, and you'll love every moment of it!!!

How is everything else?

georgiapeach · Postby **georgiapeach** » Wed Feb 25, 2009 11:17 am

(((((((((((((( jeanie and aim )))))))))))))))))))))))))))

jeanie you would cry without me... haha just kidding. who knows what life without the people that we have met would be like. it could very well be the same or it could be very different. we never know. life gives us all sorts of suprises! aim, the little one is doing well. i had an appointment yesterday to check up on it. so next week on thursday i have my sonagram schedualed to find out the sex of the baby! im so excited! i will make sure to let you guys know for sure! ok all be well and have a great day (if thats possible!)

aim · Postby **aim** » Wed Feb 25, 2009 3:03 pm

Oh Peachy finding out the gender is so exciting!!! You can start buying pink or blue soon! :-)

And yes - you'd better tell us! Have any names picked out? And how is that situation you talked to me about? Send me private message if you'd like. Hugs, honey.

georgiapeach · Postby **georgiapeach** » Wed Feb 25, 2009 3:17 pm

aim,
the name if its a boy will either be anson john or anson vincent. not sure which yet. and for a girl is london starr. and uhhhh i dont remember which situation your talking about because i've told you many situations... hehe. if its about medicaid i got that with no problems. but other than that please refresh my memory
(((((((((((((((((( aim ))))))))))))))))))))))))

Warmsoul/Jeanie13 · Postby **Warmsoul/Jeanie13** » Wed Feb 25, 2009 5:05 pm

Peach, I might cry, might not. Never know what tomorrow might bring, who knows, 'poof', I could be gone, you never know.

Monty · Postby **Monty** » Wed Mar 18, 2009 9:24 pm

I also live with my elderly mother and know how difficult it can be to deal with depression and an aging parent.

I have it easier though because my children are now adults, all I am responsible for is me. That is not true becaue even though I have a couple of other siblings it seems like mom's care is left to me. Mind you it is getting to the point that it doesn't really make a difference if I am at "home (it is her home, not mine)" or out of the house. She has gotten so child-like and dependent on my that, I am there 24 hours a day in my mind.

Like I said I live with her, as you do, so it is hard to get away and give myself a chance to breathe. I certainly would encourage you to give yourself that space, especially if soon you will be having a little one of your own.

Often I have been given the advice that I need to take care of myself first, in order to be able to take care of others. Often, I don't take that advice when maybe I should.

Hang in there.

aim · Postby **aim** » Thu Mar 19, 2009 1:38 pm

So glad you could offer help from experience on this one, Monty. :-)

And it is true, I think. If we don't take care of ourselves, how can we possibly take care of others properly? I often neglect myself to care for everyone around me, but that had to stop. And, I have to say, thanks to my boyfriend, it did. He reminds me to live for myself, not just for everyone around me, and finally, I feel like I have someone who is taking care of me for a change!! And you know what? It is my absolute pleasure to take care of him as well... that's what life is about, huh? Taking care of each other? Wish I had learned that earlier! But I still feel blessed to have him. I thank God every day for sending him into my life...

Sorry for that rant! Just wanted to share it though...

Monty · Postby **Monty** » Thu Mar 19, 2009 2:02 pm

Taking care of each other is one of the big reasons that I check this forum, several times a day.
You are all a big help to me.

I have someone in my life who is very special also, and has my back.

I am also fortunate that I have some people in my life, that look out for me, that I make me know, that I am loved.

I was very ill, a couple of years ago. These people, though not related by blood to me, kept me under their wings for about 6 weeks (had ECT have to trust others on those, memory is faulty) until I was finally able to be admitted to a hospital. They laugh because once I told them " that I would never forget what they did for me" Their reply "You already have"

aim · Postby **aim** » Fri Mar 20, 2009 8:38 pm

You brought up a great point!! Laughter is KEY to helping us through the roughest times. There is a smile in every tear - so important to remember. You have both in abundance, Monty girl. Keep it up. You're doing a lot of good here on these forums. I, for one, am very glad that you found it and shared yourself with us!!!

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