Hi, I'm Jack. I'm a 15 year old boy and I live with my brother who is a year younger than me and my mum and dad. My mum has had a long history with depression, and I've had a little. A while back my I found out my brother self harmed, and then he stopped. But one day I saw fresh cuts so had to tell my mum and dad, he is still unaware they know.
Today my dad and brother started arguing because my dad asked him to tidy his rubbish up and he said "In a minute" but didn't after about 20. It resulted in my brother threatening to kill himself. As I'm sure you can imagine that was very hard for me to hear, and I can't begin to imagine how my parents felt. However this has happened multiple occasions. Now my mum is feeling depressed again and cries a lot. My dad doesn't show it, but I'm sure he is too. We are being torn apart because of my brother but he doesn't understand it and he blames us for him feeling the way he is. I think we are taking him to see someone soon because it is out of control. I would really appreciate some tips on how to deal with all this stress because I am really struggling to keep my head above the water.
Thank you for reading.
My family is falling apart
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Hello Jack
I'm sorry you are going through such a hard time right now. My daughter (your age) was affected by my depression and I didn't know it at the time so I desperately want to help if I can in any way.
I'm going to throw it out there that both of your parents feel failed for not being able to shield you and your brother. It sounds like you all need some help and it's great that your brother will be seeing a therapist soon: my tip here is that all of you need it.
Have you tried to talk to your brother as to why he feels justified blaming you all? Do you know what his side of the story is? Isolation, feeling misunderstood, ignored or dismissed compound depression in my experience. It's so SO important to talk. Is there a kids help phone you can call?
It's also important that you spend time with friends doing something fun to take your mind off of this: it's a heavy load for a 15 yr old my dear.
My mom would tell you that you need 12 hugs a day. Can you go share one with your mom?
Take good care
Ingrid
I'm sorry you are going through such a hard time right now. My daughter (your age) was affected by my depression and I didn't know it at the time so I desperately want to help if I can in any way.
I'm going to throw it out there that both of your parents feel failed for not being able to shield you and your brother. It sounds like you all need some help and it's great that your brother will be seeing a therapist soon: my tip here is that all of you need it.
Have you tried to talk to your brother as to why he feels justified blaming you all? Do you know what his side of the story is? Isolation, feeling misunderstood, ignored or dismissed compound depression in my experience. It's so SO important to talk. Is there a kids help phone you can call?
It's also important that you spend time with friends doing something fun to take your mind off of this: it's a heavy load for a 15 yr old my dear.
My mom would tell you that you need 12 hugs a day. Can you go share one with your mom?
Take good care
Ingrid
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