Kind of scary

[Monty]

Looked at the forum index.

Saw that all of the messages were from me.

Looking forward to the end of summer, when you all will come back.

[aim]

I'm here Monty girl! I'm here... big event happened in my life and I've been crazy busy, but I'm here. And I'm sorry to you and everyone else for my absence. A MILLION times I'm sorry!

(((((Monty)))))

[Monty]

Hi Amy,

It wasn't that I was berating anyone for not posting. That seems to be our deal here, if you can post you do, if you aren't able to that is ok too.

I do miss everyone though and glad that you are around.

You certainly never have to aplogize to me.

[aim]

I know you weren't, Monty girl! No worries about that, ok? I do feel badly that I've been away so long... I've missed you all!!!

I have to tell you that I'm getting married and the madness has already begun! So much to plan and do!! But, things are beginning to subside, so I'm going to be around more, posting away!

How are you, Monty? Are things any better?

[Monty]

Amy,

Congratulations on planning a wedding in your life. You don't say too much about it, especially, when is it going to be.

My daughter is getting married in the fall and I think that I just about have everything ready for it.

I have been invited to her shower/stagette. On the invitation says that it goes from Sat at 2, until 5am Sunday morning.

Somehow I don't think that I will stay for the whole thing. Just planning to go for a couple of hours to the shower then will head off.

The invitation says that its' theme is "An Evening of Mayhem".

I have missed you. Really looking forward to hearing more about what is happening in your life now. Sounds quite exciting

[aim]

Hey Monty Girl! I don't blame you for only staying at the shower for a couple of hours... you probably don't want to see your daughter participating in a night of "mayhem!" She'll have a good time surrounded by her friends though - that's the important thing.

I am getting married next year to a wonderful and kind man who I am deeply in love with... I guess that's really enough said, huh? Well... I am finally happy with a man, and the moment he proposed a resounding, "yes!" came out of my mouth. I've no doubts about us lasting and lasting and lasting... I've waited a long time for someone like this; someone I didn't even know could exist, and I'm so happy that we will be spending out lives together.

I've missed you too.

[Monty]

Thanks for getting back to me so quickly.

I also had to wait for a long time for the love of my life. Figured it took 47 years to find, that I am damn well going to spend the second 47 years enjoying our time together.

I think that you are right, just going to the shower for a few hours, then bowing out.

My daughter lives in a city about 2 1/2 hours from my home. We wre orginally going to stay in her condo, then she found out that all of it is going to be held at her place.

She is very graciously putting us up in a hotel. She is a Chartered Accountant and her fiancee is a dentist. Afraid they probably pay more in income tax for a month (David anyway) than I make in a year.

Know I know and that she knows that I don't have the money but I really don't have too much choice.Will probably be away from the computer for about a week. We are going off on vacation to Manitoba and conttage country in Ontario.

The plan is to leave on Saturday, and return the next Saturday. Lots of plans for the week, my partners mom is in a nursing home there so we will try to visit her often. Plus do a few things she needs to get taken care of, outside of the home.

Am not sure if I am going to get the chance to post again.

If I don't I hope that you all have a good week and will be posting you soon.

[aim]

Monty - welcome back when you get here!!!

I am a firm believer that it doesn't matter when you find the love of your life... what's important is that you find that person. So glad that you have, Monty girl!!!

Enjoy all of the festivities at your daughter's wedding extravaganza!!! Will be missing you and please give us all the details when you return!!

[Monty]

aim,

Turns out that the wedding is fast approaching and I am afraid that I am failing quite quickly.

I went to see my counsellor this afternoon and all I could say is that I don't know how I am going to keep it all together for the wedding.

Just kept telling him over and over, that I just wanted things to stop. Actually I think that I would just like to have Scotty "Beam me up" for a little while.

I am getting a lot of headaches and troubles with my stomach. I haven't had problems with headaches for many years. I think that it is probably tension.

Did have a good time getting away for the week. Mind you I don't know if it was really a vacation, I had my mother in the back of my mind almost all of the trip. We spent one night at a cottage on the lake. It was the most beautiful day of the summer. Able to sit on the deck for supper and brunch the next day. We are like most places, had awful weather this summer but are getting some respite now that all of kids have had to go back to school.


Starting rambling so better sign off for now.

I won't even go back and read what I have written. I would probably delete it.

Take care. Sleep well.

[aim]

((((Monty)))) I'm sorry you're feeling so overwhelmed! Please do try to enjoy the wedding, ok? Look at your daughter's happy face and know that she is having a great day, and will be spending her life with a man she is in love with. I know how much you love your daughter... hm. You must be terribly down to be feeling like this now!

That day really did sound perfect... Close your eyes often and think of it, Monty girl. It will carry you through. Just your description made me feel more relaxed!!

I'm glad you did not delete this post - Ken has been doing an awful lot of that around here, lately! Besides... what you say means a lot to me.

Sleep well, my friend. Stay as positive as you can, and remember... this too shall pass.

[Monty]

Thanks aim, you always seem to say the right thing.

What my pdoc and I are afraid of is that it is not anxiety, that the depression is getting worse.

We can't tell until after the wedding but I am afraid that I have just dropped off the edge of a cliff.

I am strong enough (and stubborn enough) that I will make sure that I don't screw up Elizabeth's wedding.

I am concerned that all that will be happening, the wedding, being with people that I don't like (some of my kid's dad's family). Actually if you get right down to it some of the very few people that I can say that I hate (I don't use that word often) are causing me a lot of grief already.

It helps to know that you are always sending me good thoughts. Propping me up. Means a lot. You are a rock in my life.

[aim]

Monty girl! I am POSITIVE that you are strong enough to make sure that Elizabeth's wedding is wonderful. The only advice I can give you is to remember that you are the mother of the bride! That's a very special position to be in - certainly more important than some irritating ex in-laws! Try to focus on Elizabeth, JUST Elizabeth, and remember that those people? Those ex's? They mean nothing. Their opinions mean nothing. They cannot hurt you, Monty girl. Not even possible. Don't even give them a second thought! Just focus on your beautiful bride of a daughter, and screw the rest of them. They are not worth any of your thoughts.

Let us know how it goes!!!

[Monty]

aim

Thanks for your postings on this thread. They have really help, keep me in the game.

I have been to one of Elizabeth's showers already. It went well because there were a few people there that I knew.

There in another one in her present hometown, on Saturday,. That is the one that goes from Sat 2pm - Sun 5am. Called a Night of Mayhem.

Am planning to just going to that one for a couple of hours. Figured that she really probably doesn't want me to be there much longer.

A week later there is another shower in her childhood hometown. Which was also their dad's hometown. We are not together anymore and I am kind of wondering what my reception will be.

Not sure which one worries me more. The one that I know no one at. Or the one that I know everyone at.

The weekend after her childhood hometown is the wedding.

I am scared, to let me be politically correct, spitless.

On top of it all I have an infection on my hand and also in the front part of both of my nostrils. That precipitated a trip to the emergency at one of our local hospitals Monday night. I couldn't breathe.

I am on anti-biotics now. I have to be careful with sores because I am a diabetic. Borderline of having to take the needle. Hope to avoid that one.

Just got a text from Elizabeth. She and her fiancee just won a 42" Plasma tv from a lottery that they had entered. She told me that she figured it was a nice wedding present.

I have a shower present for her, but am not sure what I am going to do about a wedding present. They are going on a trip to DisneyWorld and have registered up with the company that is doing the trip for them, to make it possible for people to give wedding gifts that way.

The gift sizes range from $5. to $100. A whole bunch of things to choose from a lunch, to a ride on their fairground. It is a good idea for them. Him being a dentist, and she being a Chartered Accountant. Anything they want they get for themselves.

Did I tell you what I got her for a shower gift

If I did ignore the rest.
Bought her a pewter jewelry box, not large but large enough.
Had engraved.Fancy writing for the names. The initials in block letters

Elizabeth

LYMTLI

Mom

For those who have read my stuff before you will know (I dont have enough money to engrave all the words on but that shouldnt matter because, that Elizabeth and I sign our correspondence this way. Means

Love You More Than Life Itself.


Hope she will like it.
Have to go take my anti-biotics.

[aim]

((((Monty girl))))

Please stop stressing about your daughter's wedding, ok? All that Elizabeth wants is her mother there... that's it. She expects nothing from you but your love and support, which you have given her in abundance her entire life. Why else would she have turned out so great, huh???

And as for the shower with your ex-family? You hold your head up high and know that you are the better person. That you are the mother of the bride, and if any of those jerks try to ruin that day for Elizabeth? Your mother lion will come out in abundance. Don't be afraid of them, Monty girl. Know how far you have come and never ever forget the reason you are there in the first place - Elizabeth.

The all night bachelorette party? You are probably better off not staying through the whole thing. Don't think my mother is even invited to mine! It says how close you two really are that she did include you in that.

The gift, by the way? She will absolutely LOVE it. I cannot think of a more perfect gift you could give her.

As for the wedding gift? Either chipping in towards the honeymoon or old-fashioned cash sounds pretty good to me!

[Warmsoul/Jeanie13]

((((((((((( Monty ))))))))))))))))))

My mother always said, "It isn't the cost of the gift, it is the love you put into it". Think that applies here. What a loving mother you truly are.

As far as the bachelorette party, perhaps some $1 bills would come in handy. All I need to say about that, LOL

Just remember, lots of pictures, be there for her and share the warm love you have for her with everyone. Gaining a son now, this is good!

Warmie/Jeanie