i want to change

[kanedrick]

Im an eighteen year old male who is 6ft and considered attractive. I constantly feel emotionally unstable and think i am bipolar due to parental issues and volatile housing arrangements. This emotional instability has affected my relationships with girls all my life but i want to find a way to control my emotions.

There always seems to be a similar routine when i talk to girls, i often become obsessive irrationally and i feel that i need them to talk to me to be happy. This is then followed by me often becoming angry with them due to myself feeling that they aren't paying enough attention to me. This is then followed by further depression and often crying for a period of time.This is also currently the situation at the minute. Im communicating with a girl i find very pretty and enjoy her company. We've argued a few times which i have instigated. However i have explained certain issues that i have which i haven't shared with anyone before and she still seems interested in me. I was hoping to get some advice to try and control my emotions in order to build a stable relationship with this girl[/img]

[AmberLee]

I feel like you might be co-dependent. I used to always hate it when people said this to me, and even now I don't like to admit it, but we must be secure with ourselves and love ourselves before we can truly have a healthy relationship with anyone else. I am at the top of the needy list, and have a lot of the same tendecies that you have expressed, but trying to overcome them hasn't helped me much. I wish you luck, it truly is hard to be less "yourself" when all you want is to feel accepted.