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i've been slowly telling this forum more things about myself than i've ever told any one person and i think thats a good thing. i just feel so vulnerable exposing myself like that, constantly wondering if people will judge me or just laugh at me or think i'm crazy.. well anyone heres another part of it all. i'm 21 and i've never been kissed, never been on a date, never had a guy show me any kind of interest at all. i don't even have many guy friends and find it very difficult to talk to guys. sometimes when i'm really down i think about it a lot and it makes me feel awful. i mean i've a 15 year old cousin who has been with his girlfriend for over a year and i've never been kissed even! it seems so humiliating!! and what would i even do if the situation did arise? what would anyone think if they knew that i'd never been kissed at 21 let alone never had sex!! i know this kinda goes off the point off depression but its one of the things on that very long list of stuff that i really hate about myself and it makes me feel abnormal. i just want to be like everyone else, i want to have friends and i want to hang out with people and talk to people without it being a big deal and i would like someone to like me i guess. anyone thats my rant of the day. would appreciate feedback

When the time is right and you find the right person you'll do fine. There is a lot of peer pressure I know but you dont need to do these things because other people are. Not doing it doesn't make you less. When you find the right person it will just make that much more special.

Hey, I just wanted you to know that you are not alone!!!! Several of my best friends have never been kissed and they range in age from 22-26! Furthermore, each of my friends who have never been kissed has at least 2 friends in their 20s who have never been kissed. Just think if each of their friends also knows 2 people who haven’t been kissed how many people out there haven’t kissed anyone yet! The thing is no one wants to admit to this because they like you feel different and many hide the fact or at least don’t openly admit to it. And it has nothing to do with their personalities they are all great people who simply have not yet experienced that aspect of life. Now this might not make you feel any better because lets face it just because just because someone else out there hasn’t been kissed either it doesn’t really change your situation. But maybe next time you are thinking about it remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk about this further or anything else feel free to message me.