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My fav. is "Remember it is a natural tendency to be dark and self-destructive. The trick is to do it well—very well."

I'm not sure what the "doing it very well" means, I suppose it amounts to not denying the beast inside, to finding the middle ground between the decent and evil sides of ourselves.

At the same time, it also appeals to the part of myself that is sick to the teeth of sacrificing what I want in order to make things run smoothly between me and other people- the part of me that is tired of being so terrified that other people will be angry at me, dislike me, or punish me.
The part of me that realizes the S/I is as much out of anger than it is out of frustration or shame.

But at the same time, I really can't see the value of adding more pessimism to my life. Anger really is a useless emotion, in my opinion.
Whatever, it isn't like I have all this figured out either.

Yeah... I don't think adding more pessimism is the answer.

Frustration is anger.... or it may lead to anger.... Something like that

It may be sort of like what's in your sig: That which is denied gains power, and seeks strange and unexpected forms of manifestation....

I've seen that to be true in my life.

I don't know, maybe pessimistic is the wrong word... even though that's one of the words the author used to describe his own book.

Sometimes pessimism just vibes so nicely with what I'm already feeling in a way that allows whatever wisdom is inherent in the statement to get past the defenses.

I fully believe that anything that's phrased in a pessimistic way can usually be rephrased or reinterpreted to have a neutral or optimistic connotation pretty easily.

Kind of how like changing, "I always fail." (Pessimistic) to,
"The outcome was not what I had hoped it would be." (Neutral)

Which is essentially saying the same thing.... (well, that was a poor example, but I'm sure you can come up with your own.)

~lol~ Your examples were spot on! It's nice to see you again! ^_^

Yeah, amazing isn't it? (...how something negative can at least be put in a neutral way)

& look! We can even color it up with euphemisms!

The negative is so straight to the point! (Look at all dem words!!!)