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Ever since my best friend died, I don't have anyone to do anything with. She was my rock; she was the one that got me out of my depressed moods, the one I went out with when everything just felt so awful.

But now that she's gone, I don't have anyone to go out with. I don't have anyone to call up and go out to dinner with, to cry on their shoulder, or anything.

I find myself gravitating toward my ex-boyfriend, who stills texts me from time to time. I feel like latching onto him, and just letting myself float in that lie for a while. Just for a few moments, to forget my pain for just a little while. But I know that's not a good idea. He cheated on me numerous times - and he's only texting me now because he wants me to meet him in a hotel room. While he and I both know full well that he's still dating the woman that he left me for.

Melody, my friend who died, would tell me that this was an awful idea. She would tell me that he's no good for me, that I should just ignore him completely. But I'm so lonely. I know I should do just that - ignore him - but I have no one left. He could always make me laugh so easily, and I haven't laughed . . . Oh God, I can't remember the last time I really found something that made me laugh.

I know it's a bad idea to even think of him, I keep telling myself this. But I'm so depressed, and I'm so alone. I just wish I had someone to talk to, to hang out with, to laugh with.

I am so sorry for your loss.

It is sad that some sick people prey upon the vulnerable as your ex-boyfriend is doing with you...you are hurting and alone and he senses he can get away with using you. Don't let him, hard as it is, better to be alone than hurt and used or abused.

If you feel lonely, post here, or go into the chat room on this site. The chat room is open 24 hours a day and people from all over the world in different time zones come in so there's always someone to talk to.

Can you get a pet? Do you have any family? Can you join some sort of club, house of worship, political group, etc., where you can socialize and meet new people? Can you volunteer some place where you can be around people? Can you invite a co-worker or classmate for a cup of coffee or tea? There are many ways to be around people and start to socialize again and eventually make some new friends.

If you want to laugh, visit warmsoul's corner and read all the jokes she has posted, some made me laugh out loud. Can you rent a silly movie?

I know what it is to be all alone, I was recently betrayed by the last close friend I had, after being dumped by my boyfriend, which followed a series of betrayals and serious hurts and traumas. Now I know I should get back out there, but part of me would rather be lonely at times than hurt like that again and doesn't trust people so I shy away from everyone in 'real life'. Please don't allow your vulnerability right now to interfere with your good judgement about your ex-boyfriend. Its not worth being used and potentially hurt, and damaging your self-esteem and sense of self worth by allowing yourself to be treated wrongly.

You can make new friends, and you will always carry the fondness for your best friend in your heart. Sounds silly, but I still talk to my father who passed away a year ago sometimes...although he doesn't answer it gives me some comfort...talk to your friend, say what you want to say...

Wishing you peace, light, and strength...

i dont know about the pain of loss ,but i do know how it is to be lonely ,,we are all your freinds here and even though its not instant conversation we always look and listen ,,and hopefully write back ,,please dont feel alone as my (((((sister ,,shatteredhopes )))))said theres lots on here to look and read and try the chat thats very freindly ,,,your never alone my dear freind ,,close your eyes and look with your mind you will see us your freinds standing with you ,,,,hugs ken xn728 xx

I'm sooo sorry :'(

(((((((((((( Venefica ))))))))))))))))))

A big warm hug just for you


dandelion