Trucks

[nenkohai]

A tear forms.
But then, I begin to see, how I worry about myself and how other's see me.

Someone else sees me. You read my words and yet, the experience is about you. Not about me.

You see me. But its not about me. Its about you. Its your experience, not mine.

I suffer over losing someone I care for. And yet, the experience is mine, not the "someone."

My perception of you perceiving me is inevitably wrong. Perceiving myself through the lens of your perception is... illogical, and worse, counterproductive.

My perception of myself warps - perceiving myself through you... through what you say, or don't say; through your body language; through the whole spectrum of emotions that might even have nothing to do with me.

Warps.

Realize that someone else's perception of you is not you. It isn't. Stop trying to see yourself as others see you.

There is a Zen saying which I love: "The finger pointing to the moon is not the moon."

[hollyann]

Thank you nenkohai