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i am 24 years old and have a 2 year old son. i also have a boyfriend who i have been with for about a year and a half. i just found out that i am pregnant and he doesnt want me to keep the baby. he basically said abort or move out. i do not believe in abortion used for birth control, and am really against it, but he still says he doesnt want it. on top of that i have been feeling down for the last few months. i ran out of my depression medication and cannot afford to see a doctor for more. my son is also potty training and going through the terrible twos. if i chose not to abort, i have nowhere to live and i do not work now(per bfs request). i dont know what to do, and my feelings are pretty intense. i have had the suicidal thoughts and i am trying hard not to act on them. i feel like no matter what, i am going to lose. either him, or the baby. i love him so much, but i feel like he shouldnt be doing this to me. someone please talk to me and help me sort this out. i cant deal with this alone and i cant expect him to help either

Hi. I'm sorry you are going through so much. I know this must be really hard for you. I cant tell you what to do. I think its wrong that your boyfriend is forcing you too chose. Noone should have to choose like that. I will say that if you give this baby up for him. It may cause you to feel bad towards your boyfriend and may make that relationship come to an end anyways. There's other jobs, out there though its hard to get one sometimes when pregnant. Do you have any family, friends that can help you out? I dont know where you are from. But in the US sometimes you can get apartments, section 8 or actual low income apartments through the complex where you pay little or no rent. Its something you could try to keep in mind, but when it comes down to it, you have to decide to keep the baby or not. Just know if you do keep the baby there are options. The boyfriend may or may not change his mind. But you have to be able to live with yoursel and if you are in the US, sometimes you can get meds or therapy at little or no cost as well. Keep us posted. Wish you the best.

hollyann

First off let me just say that I feel for you and I wish you all the best with whatever choices you make.

Just remember that they are your choices and nobody elses. I don't know you or your situation but if your boyfriend cared for you half as much as you seem to care for him he would never try to force you into something you felt uncomfortable doing.

I know this must be so hard for you but you have to be strong for yourself and your child. If you decide to abort the child you must make sure that it's what you want not what you're being pressured into.

I can only imagine how hard this must be for you but take some time, find out what options are available to you and make the decicision thats right for you. You don't have to decide anything right now.

My thoughts are with you

LeeBo

So sorry you're faced with these issues all at once. I'm sure you must be feeling pretty overwhelmed right now. But, good for you for sticking to what you believe is right about keeping the baby. I know that must have been hard to do with the pressure from your boyfriend. However, I don't think you'll regret it.

With this said, though, I know the thought of facing the pregnancy alone can be pretty scary. So, have you ever thought of looking into a pregnancy resource center in your area? They usually have a lot of support available for women in your shoes and might be able to help with your living situation or make some suggestions on assistance that's available.

So, if this is of interest, you can usually find a PRC by looking through the yellow pages. I also know from working at Focus on the Family that there's an organization called OptionLine that can also refer you for free to nearby PRCs. Just a thought.

Well, know that someone out there is praying for you! I hope you'll reach out for some help!

Don't give up that baby- not only would it be the wrong thing to do, morally, if you do, your depression will only intensify. Your boyfriend is no man, and not worth keeping anyway.