Needing help understanding if I'm still Loved by Husband

[WhoAmI]

Really he's my ex-husband. We were together and married for almost 20 yrs. But due to lack of communication on his part, I made the worst decision of my life- I ended our marriage. I never wanted our Love/Marriage/family to end (we have 2 children), but felt there was no hope in rekindling his love for me. After almost 8 yrs of being divorced & suffering from deep depression, I have found myself in serious need of family's love and support, both emoitionally and financially. I've lost my career as an RN, and havent worked since 2006. This Feb, after almost a year of begging him, he allowed me to move in with him. Now here comes the really confusing and heart-renching twist--- we now share the same bed, but no intimacy whats so ever! He wont even cuddle or touch my hand to show any kind of love or affection. I bring in for him apprx. $500/m, but he say's he didn't ask me to move in for the extra money.
Will someone be willing to help me in understanding why I cant reach him, not even enough to tell me the truth...Does he still love me, or am I just a friend now? Why doesnt he feel I deserve to know that much, with everything else going on in my life?

[Warmsoul/Jeanie13]

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Welcome to the forums, a good site, caring people, hope to see you posting and releasing some with us.

I can't give answers, just my thoughts. Perhaps, working on regaining trust between each other and for each other could be a good step.

Trust in a relationship is important. The foundation of from being friends to man and wife. As said, just my thoughts.

Warmie

[cloudysky]

Hi maybe it is time for you to start giving attention to yourself for now. Make a decision to help yourself get better from depression coz that is the most important issue for you. Have easy simple goals for a start and go for it. This will help rebuild your self-esteem and everyday stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself. Self I love you, you are ok and hug yourself. Do this exercise everyday and you will be ok.

It isn ot an easy thing to dont you think it will be better if you sleep in a separate room for now? Your kids can be you inspiration and motivation to make a good life for yourself. When you are finally ok then you can try to find ways to get ur husband back.

[Obayan]

Nobody can give you those answers except for your ex-husband. All we can do as outsiders is guess. But it does sound like you need to sit down and have a calm and rational discussion with him and see where you stand and if there's any hope for a future outside of friendship. I think sleeping in the same bed is a bit confusing not only for you but maybe for the children as well.

[crystalgaze]

I think the fact that there is no intimacy says it all. Perhaps he is intimate with someone else; perhaps he has moved on already. Maybe's probably trying to help you out. You are his children's mother. (It would be cruel not to help you out.....) That's just my opinion, though, & like Obayan said it's all speculation. Also, you can only get the answer from him.

Are you expecting intimacy? ??? (You ended it.)

For now, I would just be happy that I have a roof over my head. Next, I would work on myself to a point, & if you have yourself together enough, THEN I would see about the romance.