Oh, what should I do.

[Justin2]

Just as I start feeling better about myself, and start actually reaching out, life crashes into me. But I'll start from the beginning.

I'm in college, this year, will be my 2 year degree. Which I'm glad to finally have that out of the way. But the problem is, I'm actually starting to reach out and make friend ships. The bigger problem is, is that to go to a 4 year school (Currently enrolled in a technical college now), I'd have to move again. Move away from all the relationships I'm just starting to build. Its horrible.

I'm considering just to stop school, and move back home, and work. I mean, I'd see the people I wen't to high school with agian. But then again, I wouldn't go back to college. What should I do.

[shatteredhopes]

Friendships are important, I am not negating that, but I strongly recommend you make decisions SOLELY ON WHAT IS BEST FOR YOUR FUTURE and long-term prosperity. Having been betrayed and hurt by friends and relationships, I know I regret much smaller sacrifices I made to keep those relationships alive. True friends will stick with you no matter where you go. And if you move to a university, you will make new friends...you can join clubs and groups to do so if you have a hard time. If you go home, you can go to school on-line perhaps, but definitely finish your 4 year degree and get as much education as you can...people are struggling with education in this economy, without sufficient education, its practically hopeless. You are young and have to plan for your whole life, please under no circumstances let friendships or relationships block you from doing so or even be a major factor in your decision. I know it hurts to be lonely, but you can make friends whereever you go with some effort, you cannot compensate for lack of sufficient education in the job market. This is your whole future, not just temporary loneliness.

[crystalgaze]

Please take care of your schooling first, if you can.... It's always good to have that piece of paper.

I would just try to keep in touch with your friends.... There's email; there's skype.... texting, etc....

[Warmsoul/Jeanie13]

((((((((((((( Justin )))))))))))))))

Seems you are happy where you are. Making friends, getting your education to better you life. Isn't that the best? Your decision.

Warmsoul

[Mich]

I agree with shatteredhopes.

[darklight32]

well, i'm went with education, let's just say it depends on you. Make the right choice

[sunsetsfade989]

Justin, I’m sorry to say that there is no easy answer to this question. In fact its one of the truly hard choices in this life, and there are many factors to be considered. I want to start with a disclaimer; I regret my choice to go away to college instead of going to a school at home where I had good friends. That being said my answer is obviously going to be biased. I would suggest that you take a very hard look at the friends you are considering staying near. Do you feel that they are going to be lifetime friends? Do you feel they are worth staying where you currently are? If you stayed where you are or stayed home how hard would it be for you to go to school after a year or six months if you change your mind? These are all extremely important questions you need to answer for yourself before you make your choice. Also are you still close to the friends you went to high school with? If you move home do you feel that they will make time for you, because 2 years can a short time and a lifetime depending on people’s experiences? Your high school friends have been making their own lives, so take that into consideration as well. The majority of people say school education first you can make more friends, but the cold hard truth of the matter is not everyone does make new friends in the college or town they move to get their education. You seem to be doing well in recovery and you will need to be able to continue reaching out to others to forge new friendships. Now those people telling you to get as much education as possible are right in some respects. In todays job market and likely in the future job market you need a degree just to be considered, the higher the degree the better your chances. My best advice is to look into alternatives. Is there a school where you currently are that you could attend? Or could you do online classes? Or a community college that does a 4 year degree, more and more community colleges are offering 4 year programs. I’m not sure this will help you any but I wish you all the luck in the world.