In need of advice.

[Husky]

My sons christening is coming up and i'm wondering if i should attend or not. Me and his mom are split up, and things have been really difficult between the 2 of us and her family. I'm a good person and want to be there, but i really don't like any of them. I had no say in his god parents and i don't like them either. I don't have any say in his life right now. Do you think i would be a bad father if didn't attend?

[teelee]

You should most definetly attend. YOUR son is being christened !! You don't have to like the others nor do they need to like you. It's your son's day!!! You need to be in his life no matter how you get along with his mother or family now and forever. It's not his fault you don't see eye to eye with his mom. We as parents have been given a gift from God and it's our job to build a strong foundation with unconditional love and understanding of all that we know. We are all God's children. As far as whether you think yourself being a good or bad father, only what you think really matters. Everyone has their own opinions on everything. You should not base how you feel on what someone else thinks. They are your feelings.

I have to tell you that you are a good father.....you are thinking about it whether you should go or not. To me, that tells me you do want to be there. A bad father would just say no and forget about, in my opinion. Go and be there for you son and try to think positive in the company of all your "haters". Remember they, too, are part of your sons life. And all the better for him.

[Husky]

Thanks for the advice Teelee. You really helped me out here.

[Husky]

Should i attend, even if she doesn't want me there?

[teelee]

Yes you should. And you should tell her that you both share a child. And that day is all about him. She needs to understand that you want to and will be part of his life. Again, don't let what others think stop you from being involved in your son's life. When is the event? I'm sending positive thoughts your way!!!!!!

[Husky]

The christening is this coming sunday. Thanks for those positive thoughts Teelee, i sure need them.

[teelee]

Hey Husky,

Been wondering how the cristening went...did you go?

[Husky]

Hey Husky,

Been wondering how the cristening went...did you go?

I didn't attend his christening afterwards. Someone made me aware of an issue involving my ex and it really hurt me.