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WHY AM I HERE? 30/12/13

Why am I here?
A question I have struggled with since a young age
I always thought no one would care if I went away

That all changed at 12:30am on July 26th 2003
Frazer is born
I have a reason to be alive – and 2 years later mi given another reason, Pollyanna – and another 2 years on, another reason, Brooklyn

My kids – My world – A reason to be here – they love me unconditionally despite my many mistakes

Now I fear January 21sts I might lose them
I might lose my reason for being here
...what then?

Oh deary....
I have no words for you; I'm sorry.

Your kids needs you...
You need to be around!
Try and stay positive, they need their dad.

(((Hugs)))

Your own kids need you to show them how to do stuff. And probably the most important thing they can be taught is to live for themselves. If they don't, they will be forever living for someone else, forever letting someone else control their destiny, their happiness.

You need to teach them. They are watching you. And the way you do this is by living for yourself. Living for your kids is putting the burden of your own happiness on them. It's too big a burden. Sure you can say your kids are everything, the most important part of you. But you have to show them that you can look after your own happiness (live through your achievements, your failures, your moral strengths) or they will learn to hang their own happiness on the whims and desires of others.

^^^ totally agree.

To summarize: Why are we here?

You, I, your kids, everyone; we are here to grow.

Why am I here?
Do suffer? Yes that's why.

Yes, be a good example to your kids.

Grrrrr

Grrrr what?

Yes but if she takes away my access to them which is what is currently happening, how will they know anyway?

You NEED to fight for those children.
Show them how much they truly do mean to you.

Why am I here?
Frame has given you some good advice there and I don't have much to add apart from that there is no one answer fits all.

no one would care if I went away
Wouldn't Frazer care? Wouldn't Pollyanna care? Wouldn't Brooklyn care?
What about those people who have no family, no friends, Orphans, single people, people whose family has died? It is easy to feel that no one cares but does that mean they also need to kill themselves?

I might lose my reason for being here ...what then?
Why do we need a reason? If someone hasn't found a reason yet or don't need a reason, do they not deserve to live? Do we need to put life on hold until we find a reason? Can't we simply live and explore as we go along, if we find one then great! But if we don't do we really need to make ourselves feel like a failure?

^^^ agree!

mattyj wrote:Yes but if she takes away my access to them which is what is currently happening, how will they know anyway?

I understand that is terrible and pretty unfair to be honest. You have had your ups and downs but you have always been there to support your family.

Even if you no longer live with them, they won't erase you from their hearts or their lives. Even if you can't be close to them you can care for them from afar, even if they lose everything they will always have you, you are their safety net.

I know that you have been going to the doctors and addressing your problems, when you are better or fully recovered you can always apply for access, can't you?

I'm pretty sure you can.
like I said; fight for your children.