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Ok I want to share with you my problem in life.
First of all I am 22y/o, and my girlfriend is 18y/o.
When we were to together we were so happy and almost we don't have problems at all. Even if we fight sometimes, we can find ways to get trough it.
The problem happened when my girlfriend take a tour to Italy to visit her mother. I was to scared to be left alone. So I decided to get a work just to make my self busy while waiting for her come back. While she was there she always calling me and she was always crying and telling me that she wants to get home now. So I myself tell her that she must not cry coz even we are far apart we know in our hearts we are besides each other. But she always cry and I got mad then saying bad words to her. I know I was wrong to that part.
And then her mom told to her that "Through Distance you can measure your Love to each other" in that she gets a way to make her self strong. While I was to busy on my work coz I was promoted every now and then on my performance(im working for our future). Until she came back. I haven't seen her for the first 2 or 3week(im not sure) its because of my hectic schedules. Then we talk a bit when she visits me and then we rarely talk after that, (were 60-70KM away from each other, not to far but yes its far with us.) then she told me that we she don't want me anymore, that she has found a new boyfriend(maybe bluff), and now i was left alone, i try to talk to her do everything. Just to give me a chance to make things right. I didn't sleep for 3long days but I go to work. so i decided to go to their house and i saw her jumping with joy when she see me in front of there house(i dont know what she means), I try to talk to her about us. what we do next. she always told that she dont know(but she tells me that she have a BF already). Then she call about what she don't want to me. Its my attitude. So I tell her that I will chance for her. Then total silence. then I go home, take a few drinks with my cousin until we got drunk then i receive some SMS and she tell "how can you prove that you will chance when your doing that (drinking)" What does she means by this?
And yesterday we text all day.
And now I don't know what to do?
I haven't got a sleep again 24hours now? I'm on work now
I always thinking bad things?
I was losing hope and guts to wait for the time.

btw. she just came back last May.
she give to me her *V thats why I don't want to disappoint her
parents and brothers.
i don't want to be a shame.

thanks if you can leave a message

Siegmonde hi there,
Maybe a long walk in a park and have a real good talk with each other.
Have you done anything else that might have upset her?
I know it`s difficult but try to relax a little or at least try not panic, and have a think about a nice place where you guys could meet and talk.
What about writing her a nice letter explaining how you are feeling.
Take care

hello shmuel thanks for the reply.

The only thing that I made her upset is that I don't have enough time for her.
I don't have a day off at work because I want to have give her a gift (ring) this year. And while she was away I always got mad when she call crying. I don't want to know that she was crying because of distance alone.

I just went on their house last Saturday. I try to talk to her but she doesn't want to talk then she send a sms and tell me that she will see if she can bring back the love have loss.

Yes I'm on panic right now.
And I don't know what to do know. So please help me.

wow, to me reading that was complicating all together. It sounds like she wants you to do something to prove to her you want her back. But the way she's doing it is just not right itself. I agree with shmuel, you two need to talk about this together on how you both feel towards each other and where you want to go from there. Perhaps give her a call and ask to visit one day to talk?
take care

Thanks You Very Much For Your Reply.

We have a conversation last night by sms.
She told all my mistakes that I made and she
have hard time on bringing back the loss love (because of my mistakes).
She ask time for her to think what really is my part
in her life.

So what should I do next?

(((((((((((((( siegmonde ))))))))))))))))

Just my thoughts, take them for what they are.

We make changes in our lives daily, part of life. Do you truly want to change and not be the person known as "you"? Do you want to change and be all that she wants? Will you be able to continue doing those changes, daily? Will you be happy in the long run doing this?

Just my thoughts.

Jeanie

Hello Jeanie

That is so true, we all make changes everyday. We change for the better (I think).

Do you truly want to change and not be the person known as "you"?
--->she only want to change my bad attitude.

Do you want to change and be all that she wants?
---> for her I will.

Will you be able to continue doing those changes, daily?
---> theres no harm on trying right.

Will you be happy in the long run doing this?
---> at least I made someone happy.

updates:

she tells me to wait for her decision.

How long do you have to wait?

<<<<Emotional_77>>>>

I don't know. I don't want to rush her. I want her to think carefully.
Whatever her decision I'll accept it as long as she's happy with it.

Siegmonde
*hugs*

Emotional_77 thanks for the **hugs**

Your welcome hun, I hope things work out for you.. You are a kind person

updates:

I was given a chance this morning (GMT+8). But she said it will not be the same like we use to be for now. I was happy for a while. Then sadness came she told that she is going out with her new BF. I was into panic again, don't know what to do so I talk to my mother what will I do, talk to her bother what to do, I can't sleep again, right now (7:33PM GMT+8) I only got 1 hour sleep.
I was afraid what will happened to them. I was jealous. I was crying in front of my mother. Asking what to do. If I move on what will be my first step. Or do I continue this waiting what will be her decision.
Right now I'm at work focus. She text and I reply, the heartache gone for a while. Cheering up my self for a while. Forget all my sorrows behind.



Emotional_77
Hello, I'm not to kind as I am. Is just the way I am.
Thanks for replying.