Just some of what is on my mind lately...
Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 2:33 am
In the chat tonight I discussed with a few other members about some relationship issues I am having. This is just a pretty basic overview of the situation. I guess I am posting this to vent a little, and see if anyone else has any other advice or thoughts on the situation.
I am not sure where to start, so I guess I will start with how we met. I am involved in the car scene here where I live (afterall it is the “motor city). I first met her a few years ago, just talked and whatnot, never really hung out with her or anything, just talked occasionally when we ran into each other. We have a ton of mutual friends. So last November I ran into her again, she was having a party at her place and invited me. At this point she had broke up with her boyfriend about a month before. So I show up to the party, do the usual stuff and whatnot. Well me and her are in the kitchen, and she sprays me with water from the sink, so I grab it and spray her back. Next thing I know we are both soaking wet, and somehow made it to the living room where we are now wrestling. At this point it is about 4 am and most everyone had left. So we continue wrestling for a while, and then it leads to making out. So we end up passing out together on the couch and end up cuddling through the night. We started hanging out weekly from there. I normally ended up staying at her place in bed with her for the night. We talk daily either through texting or email (neither of us are a big fan of talking on the phone) for a couple hours a day. So I finally work up the courage to ask her out a little before Christmas time and she accepts. It seems like everything has been downhill from there, we don’t talk like we used to, I feel as if I have to initiate everything, and it makes me feel like I am overbearing and pushing too hard. We haven’t been able to go out yet, just cause I am sooo broke and don’t even have the money for gas to drive to her place (lives about 55 miles away). I am hoping soon I can afford to take her out. She is having a party next weekend that she invited me too, so I guess we will see how things go then. I just wish she would just be more responsive though, it feels like I am the only one that wants a relationship and she doesn’t want anything back. That’s the basics of everything.
I am not sure where to start, so I guess I will start with how we met. I am involved in the car scene here where I live (afterall it is the “motor city). I first met her a few years ago, just talked and whatnot, never really hung out with her or anything, just talked occasionally when we ran into each other. We have a ton of mutual friends. So last November I ran into her again, she was having a party at her place and invited me. At this point she had broke up with her boyfriend about a month before. So I show up to the party, do the usual stuff and whatnot. Well me and her are in the kitchen, and she sprays me with water from the sink, so I grab it and spray her back. Next thing I know we are both soaking wet, and somehow made it to the living room where we are now wrestling. At this point it is about 4 am and most everyone had left. So we continue wrestling for a while, and then it leads to making out. So we end up passing out together on the couch and end up cuddling through the night. We started hanging out weekly from there. I normally ended up staying at her place in bed with her for the night. We talk daily either through texting or email (neither of us are a big fan of talking on the phone) for a couple hours a day. So I finally work up the courage to ask her out a little before Christmas time and she accepts. It seems like everything has been downhill from there, we don’t talk like we used to, I feel as if I have to initiate everything, and it makes me feel like I am overbearing and pushing too hard. We haven’t been able to go out yet, just cause I am sooo broke and don’t even have the money for gas to drive to her place (lives about 55 miles away). I am hoping soon I can afford to take her out. She is having a party next weekend that she invited me too, so I guess we will see how things go then. I just wish she would just be more responsive though, it feels like I am the only one that wants a relationship and she doesn’t want anything back. That’s the basics of everything.
