Homeless (May Trigger)

[CrazyLady17]

Thank you !
Not I can't catch a break and it sucks rotten eggs blah starting to get quite fed up now and fed up of being let down by the people who I thought wouldn't ever let me down!

Doubtful...
My parents have "disowned" me, they don't want me back. So looks like I'll be at the shelter a while.

[metal bear]

Your luck has to change sometime! Just keep sticking in there

[CrazyLady17]

I hope so! Waiting for a Christmas miracle to happen to be fair. Will be waiting years for it

[CrazyLady17]

Just want to run away from this homeless shelter now... I don't like it here at all- I hate it here infact, I don't want to be homeless anymore.
I want a home to live in.
I feel so lifeless

[Frame]

So far we haven't talked about your parents and the fact that your a minor.

I do have questions, but I guess most of them could be triggering.
I suppose a couple of them would be:
Are any of your councilors, or anyone from the homeless shelter negotiating with your parents on your behalf?
Have your parents given you any ultimatums under which they will allow you back?
Would you even feel safe at home with your parents?

These may be increasingly difficult questions but they are important in regard to the direction your life is going to take. Your ex- doesn't appear to be helping. So the homeless shelter appears to be your life line (although someone is paying for your cell phone, right? Who?).

To get out of the shelter, you need new options. Do you live in the city or the country? And how is the origami coming?

[CrazyLady17]

No we haven't indeed...
I actually dislike talking about my parents to be fair, but I will this time and this time only!

1; yes there are counsellors here, but no they aren't on my behalf...

2; My parents have said they will never allow me back home, so taking that as I am kicked out of that house for good now

3; my phone is on contract.. But my dad pays my phone bill every month.

4; no my ex isn't helping me at all, you are totally right there.

5; yes I would feel safe at home...

Thank you.

Yes I suppose you are right here.
I just want to run away(but I won't).

I live in a city.
And it's going okay thank you

[Frame]

Oh; and I also just want to say that I think your posts and responses
have changed dramatically in the last week. Even though your still talking about and working through difficulty, your so much more decidedly positive.

I think that's wonderful.
I also think it is an essential ingredient to positive growth.

Thanks.

[CrazyLady17]

Aww thank you Frame, that made my day and made me smile
I totally agree with you!

I am actually proud of myself for how far I've come.

[CrazyLady17]

I don't want to be homeless anymore, i don't want to be homeless for the rest of my life. Do I? Of course not...
At the moment though- in hospital. Argh. Life is full of crap'

[Ieris]

Many have suggested that you try to make up with your parents and you say they aren't having it. Only you know whether your parents will give in or not.

start taking control of your life and stop messing up. Show them that you are trying to turn your life around and deserve their forgiveness. Have you thought about why they threw you out and how they feel? Think from their perspective and what would you say yourself if you were in their shoes?

I would write them a letter confessing my mistakes, not to beg but to let them know that I know where I went wrong and how I am going to address my problems. Why should they help you if you don't want to help yourself? I have written one before and it brought me and my parents closer.

Regardless of whether they let you go home or not think of plan B. If they aren't willing to forgive you, what will you do next? Luckily you're in the UK, single parents have priority on the housing list so maybe you can check this out with your local council and see what your options are.

Where are you based in the UK?

[CrazyLady17]

Thank you.
And like I've said I HAVE tried to make up with my parents, but they are the ones who don't want anything to do with me anymore. So why am I bothering to make all the effect when they aren't even interested?
What is the point there?

Why is nobody listening to me?!
Have TRIED to make up with them- but they don't want to.. So there's no point on keeping on trying as that'll get me nowhere..
Understand me?

True point there yes!
But don't you have to be a certain age for that though? Like I'm only 17, so wouldn't I have to have permission from parents as I'm still a minor in the eyes of the law?

The eastmidlands of the UK.

[Ieris]

I know you have tried but you need to try again and again if you want to go home. If you choose to give up and stay in the homeless shelter then start seeing what your options are. I think 17 is ok but you will need to ask your local council as I'm not familiar with the whole process.

Hope things work out x

[CrazyLady17]

Yes but like I said if I keep on trying and trying it'll get me nowhere and only start more and more arguments with my parents. Believe me if you knew what my parents are like you would totally understand what I'm trying to say- and why I'm saying this...
My parents are hard work, and when they agree on something it won't change.
So I am never allowed back home, end of!

Okay I will do.
But right now I'm in hospital.. So I am not exactly the greatest

Thank you, me too x

[CrazyLady17]

Looks like I've gotten somewhere to stay....
The hospital, how lovely. Not homeless anymore!

[Ieris]

I'll take your word for it, only you know what your parents are like.

Well I guess now you are going to learn to stand up on your own 2 feet a little earlier than expected. So your current problems are:

Homeless: do you have any relatives you can stay with? Even if they aren't in your area.

Pregnancy: do you want to keep the baby? Can the father help in any way?

Money: can you find a job?

If you don't know where or how right now then I believe your local council should be able to help you the most right now. There are probably some benefits that you can claim, a safety net is there for people who struggle. I know people are probably off for Christmas, it'll be over soon so hang in there! x