Today.... was a day, was a day, was a day.
It's raining pigs, cows, & mice.....
There was SO MUCH water on the road!!
A flash flood warning is in effect apparently....
Now here's where my little adventure started..... I decided to go to Kmart.... & I went on my way picking up what I had on my list.
Okay.... Oh for the love of all things holy.... There were men, trying to pick me (but all the wrong ones)!!!
Y-u-c-k!! They were all tough horses.... much, much older men....
One asked if I needed help, as if he worked in the store, when he in fact did not.... The 1st one I encountered was just too much & kept complimenting me about my smile, where-ever he saw me. (He saw me/We bumped into each other like 4x. It makes me wonder if he were following me.... ) I was just like, "Goodness gracious!"
The ultimate.... The gentleman who asked me if I needed help.... He brought another man to look at me.... My Dad said they were both working together. He was so upset... I told him, "Well, I didn't fall for it...." He was still peeved.
Before I went into the store, a young gentleman approached me & I immediately said, "No thank you". Truthfully, how he approached me did not make me feel good. (I wanted him far from me very quickly.) He persisted after I came out of the store, & we spoke briefly. I was like... "Okay, I'll listen him out now." I didn't want anything to do with him because I felt like he targeted me & I didn't like that... Apparently, he sings & is with a band & was promoting/collecting donations.
Now here's where it got crazy. The young gentleman was annoyed & went on with an attitude that I did my best to deflect & diffuse (because I didn't want to have to be a witness to anything or be in the line of fire). The attitude was so negative. I thought that he might even pull out a gun or knife at some point. I just told him not to bother with the person & that he should work on what he's working on, so that he has the last laugh. I told him that you're here today & gone tomorrow, that it's not worth it to take it on at all. Positive vibes!! I told him to take care & I left.
I deflected the negativity well enough, but I was reminded about why I have little to no people in my immediate space: to avoid being bombarded/polluted with things I don't want. (I also stopped looking at TV to get away from the bombardment--specifically the adverts.) I was also slightly annoyed because he was going on over something stupid.... There are so many black men--dead or in jail--& he's not either, yet is on the brink of risking his life & freedom for nothing.
Also, I was sad because I realized that people & maybe--speficifically our young people--don't realize that how they carry themselves makes a big difference. Two wrongs just don't make a right. & I will add that the 2 wrongs just make the folk involved look dumb, like jack_________.
The young gentleman didn't curse per se, but how he went on made me not want to be bothered with anything he was doing--no matter how good it was--because the point is that he is selling himself & his music & his band. He's not the only person involved/affected. He was to take the high road, so that she would look dumb.
I know it's hard but there is such a thing as grace & diplomacy--even finesse. That's all part of charm. It's in those truly tough moments that you will either gain allies, gain enemies, or gain people who want nothing to do with you.
& of course, sometimes, there's a point where you don't give a crap & go wild on anyone who bothers you.
I'm trying though.... >_< Hopefully it won't be my undoing.