Disgrace

[MelloYello]

My dad's girlfriend and I hate each other and a couple days ago we got into a fight. She threw a metal bin at me and told me I was a disgrace. I punched her for saying it, but it hurt me that she had said that because I feel like it's true. Both my parents are disgraces on both sides of their families; dad because he doesn't work and has a very dark past and my mom because of the things she says to my family members. I'm also considered a disgrace because of my parents and because I'm considered a "bastard child" even though I was born in wed lock. Has anyone ever felt like their family doesn't like them?

[WOMBLE]

Hey there Mello
If your dads girlfriend or anyone is being violent with you it's assault, a criminal offence, and given your age it's concidered child abuse.
THAT IS DISGRACEFUL!!!! You could/should report her to the police if you wanted to and possibly get a restraining order against her that stops her coming anywhere near you and in your home. Just imagine the look on her face when she's arrested.
Born in/out wed lock. It's BULLS**T. You were born that's all that matters.
JESUS WAS BORN A BASTARD. That's a fact straight from the bible (Mary wasn't married when he was born). Throw that in their face.
My eldest brother and me used to fight all the time and hate each other. Now he's one of my best friends and the family member I talk to the most.
At 15 it wont be long before you can move out if you want/can. Or are there any relatives or friends you could live with if your home is too much?
Womble.

[MelloYello]

I've been abused all my life(both physically and mentally) by my mom, but my dad's girlfriend rarely gets physical with me, and she lives with us, so I don't think a retraining order would work.
The only family member I get along with is my grandmother and she lives with us, other than her there is no one that I could live with. I'm going to try and hang in there until I'm 18 and can move out.

[WOMBLE]

Hey Mello,
A RESTRAINING order would force her to move out, although she could do with some retraining aswell. I understand if you don't because it sounds like you'ld get grief from your dad for it. Is there any chance you and your Grandma could get a place together? And what's to stop you moving out at 16? If you live in England the council have to house you, it might be difficult for a while but it's something to think about. Do stick it out because the situation wont last forever.
Womble.

[MelloYello]

no, there isn't a possibility of me and my grandmother getting a place for ourselves. Unfortunately, I don't live in England so i'm going to have to stick it out until I can legally move out

[WOMBLE]

Oh. It was just a thought. The only thing I can suggest is pretty much what you're doing, stick at your therapy, take care of you and your Grandma, get out as soon as you can (with your Grandma if possible) and don't let anyone give you any shit. Is it possible for you to learn some sort of self defence? Other than that study as well as you can, the better your qualifications the more options you'll have.
If you don't mind saying, where do you live?

[MelloYello]

I used to take TaeKwonDo, but my school closed and I'm about to start taking it again. I live in the United States

[crystalgaze]

Just to add to what's been said, as soon as you can, get away from anyone who will say unkind things to you. I keep those people out of my space.... (They're bad for my health.)

Don't give up & just believe in yourself.

[WOMBLE]

Hey Mello,
TaeKwonDo is a good one as far as I know, just stick at it, like your studies. I'm not being patronizing but you really will be glad you did when your older. I dont know about U.S. law, you'ld be better off talking to someone qualified, but if her hitting you isn't a crime it should be.
I don't really know what else to say, there's funny and inspiring stuff in Warmsouls Corner, and you'll find supportive people here if you need it, or just pop in from time 2 time.
Take Care
Womble

[Obayan]

It is never ok for someone to make someone else feel anything less than what they are. And what you are is a human being deserving of respect, dignity and compassion. I really wish you would speak to someone in authority. A counselor, a teacher, a principal, someone who can help you. If that isn't a possibility, then I do wish you the strength to keep holding your head up in the knowledge that you don't deserve this and will soon be old enough to escape it.