There's 7 billion people, so why are so many so lonely?

[EmmaliciouS]

I kinda don't get it..
Isn't that totally weird? What do people think is the reason behind it?
Figured you know, was more alone from my own problems but i dunno.. more i look about it's like more people are lonelier than happier, not like, just talking about here or anythings but like, all over. So.. why? *Kinda should make note am making this thread in a foul & angry mood cos people keep shouting at me so i feeling blurgh* and confused as why am alone when is so many people in the world.

Also wanna ask where people draw comfort from? More like, where you get companionship/huggles?
I get comfort in music and baths.. ok.. cake too
But not anything like enough to get up, had go out today.. and as result i cancelled everything for tomorrow.. including a job interview & i'm currently unemployed =/.. yeah i know.
So, what motivates you?
2 part thread i guess

[Justin2]

(((( Emma ))))

Well, I don't know really, like you said, so many people, why are so many lonely, I tend to think alot depends on our life circumstances, the things we can't help that make us sad.

Part 2

Well, music has a two part on me, feels good unless its a saddening song.

[Mel234]

I never really thought about that.
But it's true though, I guess it's we feel that maybe the problems that we experience we think nobody else has experienced them? Idk.

I get comfort from hmm, definitely music. I'm constantly listening to it. Or just by taking a walk. Seeing the nature and just it makes me think.

[TackingIntoTheWind]

I wonder about this myself sometimes. In this day and age we have methods of instant communication that our great-grandparents couldn't have imagined. And yet it sometimes seems harder and harder for one person to " connect " with another. Why is this? I don't know. Perhaps it's the famous British " reserve "? Perhaps it's a side-effect of living in crowded, urban environments, that makes keeping a certain " social distance " from the crowds of other city-dwellers a psychological neccessity? Perhaps it's because so many people nowadays are scared of so many things, so we try to keep other people at a distance so they don't realise how scared we are?
I don't know. what I do know is, that it's important to hold on to the hope and possibility that the next stranger we meet actually MIGHT be a friend that we haven't meet yet. Because, afterall, making friends and " connecting " with other human beings is an essential part of who we are as human beings.
As for what motivates me?
( This is going to sound so sad!!!! ) Ever since I was a very young child I've been a keen Science Fiction fan and I've grown up with programmes like Star Trek etc. So, when I'm feeling low I confess that I often think to myself James T Kirk, Kathryn Janeway, Buffy Summers, David Vincent, et al wouldn't give up....!!!!
Also, I come from a stubborn family background.....!!!!
Also on making friends, a less pretentious thought from the Hitch-Hiker's Guide To The Galaxy:

Gag Halfrunt ( Zaphod Beeblebrox's psychiatrist ): " In my profession we don't make close personal friends. "
Zaphod Beeblebrox: " Ah, professional detachment. "
Gag Halfrunt: " No, we just don't have the knack. "

[nbarts]

Because we have a dysfunctional society, because 90% of what our parents teach us is wrong. People are unwilling or afraid or ashamed to meet other people, everybody is so scared that they are gonna get screwed over, that they end up being screwed for life. I can't count how many times people that liked me avoided me, because they were afraid their "friends" or parents wouldn't approve. Every single friend I've ever brought home when I was young my parents were paranoid about, total disapproval, every time they would see me with a girl they would do their best to end it, because they were paranoid that I would get her pregnant. How stupid is that? Well, I guess they've got what they wanted, they've crippled me for life, now I'm pretty much as lonely as it gets & people of my age are simply not willing to meet other people. Just my theory.

[crystalgaze]

I had another thought about this and what I came up with is that.... not everyone is a quality person.... I'm not saying people are worthless, but I find that some people are mean (unnecessarily so), and well, I wouldn't want to be around that person.

And the list could go on... Prejudiced... Strange energy.... Those things would be toxic to me.... but I do think people have their strong points, and maybe it's that we all should focus on but keep a watchful eye.

I would love to just be myself around people and not have to worry, but it is best to keep a watchful eye and even be reserved....

[pablos]

I think its because we live in a informational/technical world. People are too busy running around they don't take time to really sit down and talk. I know for myself when trying to find someone to talk with, no one is available because they are always so busy. everyone has their own priorities.

[Obayan]

I think a lot of it depends on our perception of how things are at the time compared to how we feel at the time.

I find comfort in my cats. Most days.

[Jaymn]

I would say it has partly to do with technology like some of you said. Like what we are doing now. And i've noticed people text more than talking on the phone. Then they might be afraid to meet people. Even dating sites you don't know who you could be talking to. Maybe we forget how to meet people or talk to them? That could be part of it idk.

Umm I like watching any kind of movie, music, sleep, family.

[Obayan]

Good explanation i think.

[Jaymn]

Mine Obayan? I couldn't really put it together the right way I guess. Not how I wanted it to be.

[depressedforever]

Because we have a dysfunctional society, because 90% of what our parents teach us is wrong. People are unwilling or afraid or ashamed to meet other people, everybody is so scared that they are gonna get screwed over, that they end up being screwed for life. I can't count how many times people that liked me avoided me, because they were afraid their "friends" or parents wouldn't approve. Every single friend I've ever brought home when I was young my parents were paranoid about, total disapproval, every time they would see me with a girl they would do their best to end it, because they were paranoid that I would get her pregnant. How stupid is that? Well, I guess they've got what they wanted, they've crippled me for life, now I'm pretty much as lonely as it gets & people of my age are simply not willing to meet other people. Just my theory.

mate i know how you feel... i never ever had friends in primary and secondary school that were close or even consistent... then in college i made two bunches of friends and my parents did a good job of gettinng rid of them for me and now if a friend or anyone calls me my mum alwasy makes me end the call as ses that i am on the phone. i now have two or three friends that are older then me and imet them in places like the mosque and my parenst hate them too. life sucks...

[Obayan]

It's hard when your parents won't allow you to socialise. I know. But school is a good outlet for socialization.