love?

[Fourdave]

what is love? is it the word, just said as the same as work or play, or is it a feeling something deep inside, so my question is can you feel love and not be able to say it? I had terrible dreams last night, the little i slept, but what i remember is my wife saying she loved me, but everytime she said it, I kept sliding down this hill, i kept clawing my way back up, but then she would say it again, down i would go, i remember thinking how much i loved her and i would keep clawing, but i was so tired, it was so hard.

i little back ground on this, for some reason I have a hard time telling my wife I love her, I can write it, I feel it, but when she says it to me, instead of saying it back, i freeze up, and usually ( sort of joking ) say " no you don't" or i just blow her kisses. My TP thinks maybe it has something to do with my first wife, whom I also loved very much and told her all the time i loved her, then she left me after 16 yrs of marriage, we both were to blame, but now its just hard for me to say that, i do not want to be hurt like that again, i won't be!!!

anyway, thats the start of my day

Dave

[Mich]

Dave - Your TP explanation sounds like a feasible one to me. Your wife would probably really like to hear you say it to her. I wonder if you can work up the courage to say it some of the time....not every time at first....but some of the time. You will probably feel so good if you do it. I am so happy for you that you can feel her love. That is wonderful. Depression has taken that away from me. Thank you so much for your comment on my post. It has given me something to think about.

[Warmsoul/Jeanie13]

((((((((((( Dave )))))))))))))))

Love doesn't come along very often, some may think it does.

Cherish what you have with your wife.

Warmie/Jeanie

[xn728]

to live your life for them .good or bad ,dont punish them for the things you have done ,open there car door ,make them soup and toast when tere ill, make them tea at 2.00 am in the morning when they wake and cant breathe ,dont tell them when your dying inside ,dont let the visitor
show them your pain ,give your life to save theirs ,dont take it from them because you hurt ,hold them tight with the warmth from your body ,
this will give an unbelievable feeling of safe security,
my fran ,i would cut out my lungs and give them to you ,to make you we,ll
im so afraid i will be on my own , xn728

[Warmsoul/Jeanie13]

That kind of love is hard to find, still searching here. Perhaps someday it will happen.

Best to you both....

((((((((((((( Dave and Ken )))))))))))))

[crystalgaze]

Hi there Dave..... (((Fourdave)))

"I love you" is not something I say any more.... It is hard for me to express to others, especially my family where I have a mixed feeling toward them.

I don't even hug them as much any more, again due to the mixed feeling. Probably I might regret it later, but for now, I don't. I believe I am trying to prepare myself mentally, in case they die sooner than I expect (like less than 20 years)....

Any way when I realized I had a problem saying "I love you" & was still with some 1 of my exes.... I went & found different ways to say it in other languages.

That's how I beat it back then....

So it's I love you, honey/I love you too//Ditto/Right back at ya with kisses + silliness or something like that..... or Te amo/Te amo tambien/Te amo mucho (muchissimo when you want to stress it extra).... or aishiteru/kimi wo aishiteru.... I forgot the one in Chinese right now.... (wo ai ni, I think) but that was how I went with it.

Maybe something like that might help... I don't know....

[Fourdave]

Thank you all, this something I have been fighting with for some time. Like everything in my life I feel the need to understand something before i do it, I don't understand why i can't say it, so something is wrong, right? so i must fix it before I do it. I know, not very logical, and I want to so bad. I do like the idea from cyrstalgaze, using other words, might give that a try, will see

thanks
Dave