A nervous hi

[Rabidspam]

Hi

[hollyann]

Hi and welcome. Sometimes if you write down what you want to say or what you feel before hand, or any questions you might have is helpful. And show it to the doc. Also try and remember that the doctor is there to help you not judge you. Sometimes it takes a while to build up trust with a doctor or find one that you trust enough to share with. If the first one doesn't work don't give up. Its very important to be as honest as you can be so that they can find the right way to treat you. Most of them will work with you and proceed as you feel comfortable.

hollyann

[Mich]

Hi - Welcome to the forum. This place is great for providing caring and support. Hollyann gives very good advice and I can't really add anything except to say that I also have trouble talking to my doctor and so will write things down and hand it to him to read. That seems to make it easier for me than having to start up a verbal conversation myself. Take good care.

[lisalou]

Hiya, welcome here. I think the advice about writing things down is a good idea. Don't be afraid or ashamed to express your feelings because your doctor will be better equipped to help you the more they know and there is not much you can tell them that they will not have encountered before. I'm sure I've heard somewhere that the average doctor sees at least one person with depression every day. I really don't want to belittle how you're feeling but just to say that depression is common and that you will be understood. Best of luck,

Lisa x

[Rabidspam]

Thank

[Monty]

HI Rapidspam,

First of all welcome to the forums.

When I had my first enounter with the psychiatric health care system, my first counsellor told me to either start talking or not to come back.

I couldn't talk so I didn't go back. That made for a gap of about 10 years where I should have been getting help but I didn't.

The second one I tried I still didn't say much. Our sessions sometimes would last for less than 10 minutes. She didn't give up on me and I didn't give up on her. When I got to the end of my time with her, she couldn't shut me up.

My point is, when I was a child I was always taught that "what happens at home, stays at home". That is a cruel thing to inflict on your children. It took me so long to finally realize that isn't the way it should be.

I am on permanent Canada Pension Plan Disability (CPP shouldn't start until 62 and mine cut in at 49) because as the psychiatrist wrote on my form "self-loathing".

I like to think that the supports that I have in my life (of which this forum is a huge one) are helping me to realize that little girl is not the scum she was brought up to think that she was.

Again, welcome