Withdrawing from life, and the wife is pissed about it

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ObliviousNerd
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Withdrawing from life, and the wife is pissed about it

Postby ObliviousNerd » Sun Mar 01, 2020 4:10 pm

Hi mine kinda crept up on me, I've always been pretty quiet. However the last few years, having 2 kids my social circle went from small to 0.
A redundancy went from having a laugh with workmates on shift to a new job where I work alone overthinking for 8hrs a day. I once was optimistic and motivated at work now it's that will do, why even bother applying

My wife says I'm drifting along not engaging with her and the kids, she's right I just drift along occasionally making clumsy gestures to show I care. Feels like the more I try the more I annoy her. Tried a few things to help myself like getting fit, changing habits and trying to be more mindful. Doesn't seem to help long term so I'm gonna make an appointment to see a doctor tommorow, something I've made excuses and delayed for several months now wish me luck

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Re: Withdrawing from life, and the wife is pissed about it

Postby CamGirl » Thu Mar 05, 2020 11:48 pm

I salute you for deciding to seek professional advice, good luck to you! :)

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Re: Withdrawing from life, and the wife is pissed about it

Postby Łost Søuł » Tue Mar 10, 2020 1:22 pm

Hey man I hope you find your piece. I have also had trouble engaging with others close to me. Sometimes it just feels like work to pretend and do things. The world has become extremely overwhelming and so many small decisions and thoughts we experience in a day. One starts to feel so small. We come to the conclusion that we truly are unimportant. Social interaction may help but only lasts a moment and when one gets too much they resist it. It's natural. In the end "right" and "wrong" are only words we invited for feelings we have. There is no such thing. One just has to find what most makes them feel at piece. I know its hard, hope you're better man

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Re: Withdrawing from life, and the wife is pissed about it

Postby heavyheart38 » Thu Mar 19, 2020 2:29 am

ObliviousNerd wrote:Hi mine kinda crept up on me, I've always been pretty quiet. However the last few years, having 2 kids my social circle went from small to 0.
A redundancy went from having a laugh with workmates on shift to a new job where I work alone overthinking for 8hrs a day. I once was optimistic and motivated at work now it's that will do, why even bother applying

My wife says I'm drifting along not engaging with her and the kids, she's right I just drift along occasionally making clumsy gestures to show I care. Feels like the more I try the more I annoy her. Tried a few things to help myself like getting fit, changing habits and trying to be more mindful. Doesn't seem to help long term so I'm gonna make an appointment to see a doctor tommorow, something I've made excuses and delayed for several months now wish me luck

Please relay your outcome. Our marriage is exactly the same, and am genuinely interested in if I can apply it to my situation. Good luck!

mousemeowkin
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Re: Withdrawing from life, and the wife is pissed about it

Postby mousemeowkin » Fri Mar 20, 2020 8:34 pm

Good luck. I can see you're really trying. I hope it works out for you and that your road to getting better isn't too riddled with potholes.

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Re: Withdrawing from life, and the wife is pissed about it

Postby Prycejosh1987 » Thu Jun 04, 2020 5:02 pm

ObliviousNerd wrote:Hi mine kinda crept up on me, I've always been pretty quiet. However the last few years, having 2 kids my social circle went from small to 0.
A redundancy went from having a laugh with workmates on shift to a new job where I work alone overthinking for 8hrs a day. I once was optimistic and motivated at work now it's that will do, why even bother applying

My wife says I'm drifting along not engaging with her and the kids, she's right I just drift along occasionally making clumsy gestures to show I care. Feels like the more I try the more I annoy her. Tried a few things to help myself like getting fit, changing habits and trying to be more mindful. Doesn't seem to help long term so I'm gonna make an appointment to see a doctor tommorow, something I've made excuses and delayed for several months now wish me luck

Talk to your wife about the situation. Im sure she will be supportive.


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