New to forum need some advive

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First time ever doing this. I have been on meds for about a year or so. Had issues (Side Effects) and have changed 3 different meds. I feel my depression is minor. Mainly having issues with Marriage. Wife say that I am not the man she married. I work 60+ hrs a week and have to drive 60miles one way so have to deal with traffic. Wife say that I am negative about everything. I will always point out faults before I give praise. Including my Kids. I was brought up showing our love by punching or teasing my siblings and father. And my brother and sister both agree with that. Its just the way we were raised. We NEVER told each other that we love you. My wife says that I am getting worst. I do see myself teasing the kids, but I look at it that they are getting older so I am teasing more. Lately she has taken kids and been staying at her parents. How can I change the way I was brought up. I do tell my kids that I LOVE them. And I talk to my kids a lot more than my parents ever talked to me. But majority time when I get home from work I just sit on the couch and screw around on the internet. I have recently told my wife that she has to get a job to help out with bills. She was not to happy with that. Because I do not do anything around the house she says that she does not trust me with watching the Kids, which I feel is BS. We have been going in debt more and more and feel that this is the reason for me being more and more the way I am.
Any Advice