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[hail12321]

Hi everyone. I'm Hailey (:

I'm here just because I'm depressed and I have anxiety and an eating disorder. I hope I can talk to people who understand.. and I guess that's all.

[Itsonlyme]

Hello Hailey Nice to meet you.

BTW, my eating was completely 'out of order' for the first 45 of my 50 yrs.
5yrs ago I was dying from obesity + a long list of health problems, including severe IBS and Fibromyalgia.

Then somehow I got health and fitness lodged in the front of my OCD brain, and Bam ! Now I'm a health and fitness freak ! I know that OCD is considered a psych issue, and I'm not wishing that on you.
However, "normal" people get healthy / fit, also

Have you seen a specialist or dietician about your eating disorder ? Might be a good place to start.

Best wishes

[100footpole]

Hailey,

Forums are a great place for me to practice what I think of as magic. I look at these posts as mirrors that let me affect my reality. Because I'm older ... over 50 ... I try to think of how I've changed my point of view to become happier. Like ItsOnlyMe ... it is possible to make yourself happier by working to change where your inner voice is coming from. But getting that inner voice to change places is not something you can do physically .... that's where the "magic" comes in.

When I was in my early 20s I went to some therapists. They didn't make me better, but they gave me the cognitive tools to get myself to 50. I recognize the parts of my inner conversation that make me feel bad. I cannot control the conversation, but I can control how I react. I think the basis for my "magic" is simply patience.

My wife wanted to do something this weekend that I was really not up for. I got strong for an hour on Saturday Morning and suggested it to her after all. The whole time we were doing it I did my best to make sure she had a good time. I don't like crowds ... and we went somewhere crowded ... when it got to much for me I told my wife I would meet her "over there". We visited with my wife's family on Sunday and she talked with them about how much fun we had for 30 minutes or so ... and THEN I felt great.

If your disorder makes you too light ... get the tools to work around it. If it makes you heavy ... be patient it will work out.

[sk35]

Hello!!

I just want to say that I totally agree with what the others have said. The key to happiness is working daily at minimizing the affect your nagging inner voice has on your mood and actions. Some days are a real struggle and I have to really work at it but each new day is a new opportunity to bring joy to someone else's life and thus to mine as well. It is really nice to meet you and welcome!

[Doogie]

Hi Hailey,

Welcome!

Are your depression and eating disorder combined in any way? I know that it's harder for the younger women today to keep up with the false standards that exist. I'm not certain as to the reasons in your case, but I do know that I have a borderline eating disorder so it can be a bit of a challenge.