Depression Understood Forums

Okay its like this:

I really do need someone to talk to, to air out my thoughts and help me get some perspective. I am married, 47 and have two amazing sons.

My main problem is that I dont want to socialize and only feel good indoors when I am with my sons. I know this may sound arrogant, but i find the majority of our friends conversation really mundane and repetitive. they drink and party too much. This is okay for my husband but i have always felt a bit of an odd ball. I like intellectual chats, i like to read and i dont like my kids seeing me get drunk. Our friendship group think i am a bit weird and I feel so outside of things.

The trouble is we have moved to a new country and all the people we have met are these kinds of people. I think that all the people i would relate to our indoors. i miss England and the few good friends I had.

there is no point discussing it with my husband as he says he understands but still goes out with them all the time whilst I stay indoors - which I like but I am lonely and feel like a social misfit.

I am too close to my sons and feel they are my one and only reason for living at times.

I am currently learning the language here and making every effort to meet other people but I feel desperate and lonely and keep seeing myself as a total loser.

i have not one friend here Can somebody help please. thanks

What things do you do to meet people?

Hi. Welcome to the forums. We also have a chat room here. Great for when i feel lonely and need to talk. I'm a lot like you. I stay home all the time.

I'm very lonely too. But I've got a whole set of problems of my own that I won't subject you to now. Just wanted to let you know that your not alone in feeling lonely.

Someone did a quote in the chatroom tonight that is really sticking out in my head.... "loneliness is the only problem that is solved by putting the sufferers together". We are together here.