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hello all! my name is Brian, i'm originally from Scotland but moved to New Jersey just over a year ago I am married with two children a 6 month old boy and a 3 year old girl. Robert and Sophie.
it was my wife that suspected i was suffering from depression as i was having panic attacks i was diagnosed and put on medication, as this was going on we had our first child and money got tight and my symptoms got worse, a different medication was given. then my wife (who is from America) got a job in the states. So we all moved into my mother in laws, then we had a second child and of course money has gotten tighter, my father in law died . my mother in law lost her job, and now my marriage is on a knife edge, my relationship with my mother in law is shakey at best, i'm so tired and angry all the time , and because of money constraints I have been off medication fore about 5 months. so because of the medical situation in America is so expensive I have come here to listen and learn and hopefully get some resolution, save my marriage and be a better person!!!

Stress can be a huge factor in a depressed person. The more stress, the more depressed, the worse things tend to get. One way to help deal with this is like what i do. I keep lists. Of everything. but the major list is what is going on and what my plan is for dealing with it. I write out a list of what all is going on around me. Next to each item, i write out 2-3 possible responses from me. Next to each response, I write out the possible outcome. Then I choose which I want to act upon. It helps me not only make the best decision but also to keep things in perspective a bit.

Hello! Since money is tight, if you want anymore children, don't have anymore right now.

What I can think of for you is to work on managing your anger/moods. Like Obayan mentioned, planning a response to your stressors may help.

It may also help to sit down with your wife & see what type of plan you 2 can come up with together. You start out by saying (if you all are fighting): Let's call a truce. I'd really like to try to work on our issues together for a better marriage, present & future for us + our kids.