what 2 do?

[FED_UP]

i really dont no where 2 start. im 19 years old living and home with 2 sisters and a nephew. im in collage now studying a course i hate!!!! i want 2 leave collage and join the army as a mechanic but, as is everything else in my life, my mom doesnt want me 2!! this is so annoying being 19 and STILL not aloud make my own decisions in life weather they're bigg or small. she is only worried that i wont make enough money when im older but what she doesnt realise is that i dont care if its a million or not once ive enough money to pay bills and food and all that. this is only a small problem compared 2 everything else. the town im living in now has turned in 2 a complete s*ithole!!! a few weeks ago i broke up 2 of my 'friends' from fighting but then ended up gettin kicked in the face, while i was on the floor, by 1 of them. everyweek there is somkething new goin in here and lately ive been turning 2 smoking weed because it seems 2 clear my head of all the problem with my mom,sister, society etc. for just a little while (plus its the only thing helpin me sleep at night, hence me writing this at 6 am ccause i didnt have any). i wish that i could move to a place where peaople didnt want 2 be violent for no reason and where i could be by myself with nobody telling me what to do and when 2 do it. Just a place where i could be happy for once.

[dd-va]

Hi FED_UP
I can understand how frustrated you must be feeling with the way things are for you now. Have you tried sitting down with your mother and letting her know just how badly you want to do this, and why? I can ensure you that your mom is only wanting what is best for you, that is what all us mothers want. I hope that things improve with you soon. Take care!

[Netman]

Hi, er...your mum is probably right. Much as I hate to say it, my mum was right too! I was in the same situation as you pretty much, although my drug of choice at the time was alcohol. I can say it really does get better! I felt my only way out at the time was to join the army (actually i even thought of the foreign legion - drop off the face of the earth!) Alas, depression and apathy got the better of me and I did nothing, put up with things and attempted to get on with life, miserably! Anyway, the best bit of advice i can give you is to listen to your mum, she has a few more years experience on you, and really do continue with your studies. Try staying in for a few weeks - I know this sound's insane as a 19 year old (been there, done that) but it kind of resets your mindset. If I can help in any way more, please ask (I'm male and 37, so I am experienced!)

[Netman]

Hi, er...your mum is probably right. Much as I hate to say it, my mum was right too! I was in the same situation as you pretty much, although my drug of choice at the time was alcohol. I can say it really does get better! I felt my only way out at the time was to join the army (actually i even thought of the foreign legion - drop off the face of the earth!) Alas, depression and apathy got the better of me and I did nothing, put up with things and attempted to get on with life, miserably! Anyway, the best bit of advice i can give you is to listen to your mum, she has a few more years experience on you, and really do continue with your studies. Try staying in for a few weeks - I know this sound's insane as a 19 year old (been there, done that) but it kind of resets your mindset. If I can help in any way more, please ask (I'm male and 37, so I am experienced!)