Helping with my husband’s depression

[Leanne1]

My husband has anxiety/depression issues and is on medication for it. I love my husband dearly, and don’t ever see my life without him. He has a sense of humour that is unmatched by most people and he can make me laugh uncontrollably, but sometimes he forgets to take his meds, and then the entire family pays for it for 3 days. He gets angry, moody and just generally someone I don’t want to be around. I feel as though he blames me for everything bad that happens in his life. My kids (11 and 7) steer clear of him and everyone walks on egg shells. I get upset when he “forgets” his med because he is 40 years old and should understand that just because he feels good, doesn’t mean you stop taking them. I am not his mother and don’t feel as though I should dole out his med as if I were. When this happens we have several arguments to the point where I think about ending our relationship. I am frustrated beyond belief. If anyone has any suggestions to help, please let me know

[Obayan]

I get the same way. I'm 49 and when i start to feel better i forget the meds. Basically, it comes down to makeing a decision. Which do you hate more? Having to remind him to take his meds or living with him the way he gets when he forgets them? Forgetfullness is a symptom. It's not done on purpose. My husband set up an alarm clock for me out in the living room. Lined up all my meds behind it. It went off each day to remind me to take the meds. And then he asked to make sure i took them. It was his way of doing something little to help me in a situation he felt he had no control over. Maybe setting up a seperate alarm could help to remind your husband?