Stressed & lonely

[Lookin4Friendz]

I am a 25 year old woman still living with parents and due to S.A.D I haven't been out with friends since about the age of 13, have never been on a date, gone on holiday or done a whole bunch of other things I should have done by now.
I have moved house a few times - hence why I haven't had friends since 13 because I moved about 3 times since then & haven't been able to get a social life since that age.

I have tried different dating sites ect over the years but I only ever seem to get interest from men that are either too old for me or those that just want to stay out all night drinking.
I don't drink & will probably never go clubbing & although I have had no problem going to work over the years and get along with people that I work with ok I never get asked out & everyone that I have worked with in the past and who I am working with now all have their partners, friends and some have children so I just don't fit in with their lives.
I don't want children but that's not the point.
I have to put on this massive act at work and be super nice to everyone all the time especially because I work with customers and pretend that my life is great even though I just feel like crying all the time due to my fustration.
Even the youngest girl at work is pregnant & is happily sharing a flat with her boyfriend.
I just feel so c**p & alone all the time & I am not getting anywhere in life.
I know 25 isn't that old now but with everyone I know getting to be a proper adults & with me not getting anywhere it is just getting beyond fustration.
I am allready looking back at all my teenage years I have missed out on going out & having fun or doing something worthwile & almost all of my 20's as well & I do not want the next 10 years to end up the exact same but the problem is I'm too thick to actually go and do something about it otherwise I wouldn't be in this situation.
I do make an effort and try to go somewhere once a week either to a wildlife reserve or I will go & explore a nearby town for siteseeing/shopping etc. but Im getting so fed up of either just going with my parents or on my own all the time & I never seem to meet anyone my age when I am out & about either.

All I want is to maybe have at least one friend who I could go out with even if it is only a few times a year then it would be a massive improvement & if I'm really lucky and I mean really lucky perhaps maybe some decent guy the same age as me who doesn't drink could show some interest? I know its wishfull thinking but everyone else has no problem getting dates/ boyfriends ect so why can't I? all the bad tempered unattractive (ok I'm not pretty either) foul mouthed chavs in my area have no problem with this so I don't understand why no one wants me it's not as if I never go out of the house.
Apart from all that I am actually down to earth & really easy to get along with if given the chance and I am also respectfull of others & try to be kind & helpfull when I can.

Thankyou so much for reading I know I went on for far too long & I still have a lot inside I want to talk about but that will do for now.

[PaleSister]

Hello! I read your post and felt that I could really connect with you. I'm 32 living at home, I have a couple of friends but I don't have any 'close' friendships and I very often feel alone. I also have SAD and I suffer from Depression. Its very difficult to find someone who is understanding and willing to be a friend in the good times, and the bad. I've come to realize that, the only way to change the things that you are not ok with in your life is to get out of your comfort zone once in awhile. I'm not meaning to do things that are too wild or not in accordance to you values, but little changes here and there that you are comfortable with, little steps to get to the things you want like new friends, new relationships are important.

There are a few good websites you can look into, meetup.com is a very popular one, and one you would probably have more luck with, another i've tried is girlfriendsocial.com I've met a lot of very nice women there. It is hard, but the good things don't come easy. Even with meeting new, potential friends/relationships, you have to invest time to allow the relationships to grow and that might mean doing things you might not like (so long as they are safe and healthy though lol). I'm still looking for that 'best friend' who is understanding, genuine, sincere and who wont put me down or push me to things i'm not comfortable with, but I know that I have to put in more effort to get what i'm looking for.

I wish you good luck in finding new friends, and to new adventures!!

[Darko]

G'day, I just read your post.
I really like your use of the word CHAV. I'm guessing that mask you English? Having depression (or any Mental Illness) can relay suck! I have depredation for ever, some times it's so overwhelming, it cripples me.

because I'm awake all night, I find myself completely socially isolated a lot of the time. I only have one close friend, but I don't see him enough because he has his own family. I use to work in customer service, I get the whole putting on an act just to get through a shift, when all you really want to do is yell get the F@#k out of my face.

It's not all bad, I do have my good days, and I can see a brighter future, most of the time. anyway if you ever want to chat you know where to find me.