First time user.....Please help...

[DepressionSucks]

Hello I came here because I have alot going on in my life I lost my girlfriend of 8 years I have 0 friends in real life I have depression it's just I'm tired of life I have no real reason to live and it's just I don't know what to do I'm hoping this place can kinda help but I don't know...

[shadowinside]

All I can say is that I know how that feels. You're not alone in your feelings. Someone told me a few days ago, that sometimes the only thing you have to live for is the hope that one day things will get better. That's what I am hanging on to. You can do the same!

[DepressionSucks]

Same here....sorry to be debbie downer but it just gets harder to look forward to life when it's like everything always screws up for you thank you for your advice I hope don't sound jerkish >_<

[shadowinside]

You don't sound like a jerk at ALL. It's good to be honest with how you are feeling, and there is no better place to do that then here! I am down almost all of the time. That's depression, and I get that. Just don't give up hope. It's all we have.

[DepressionSucks]

I have depression as well I just want you to know because I can tell by how you are you're a extremely nice person I thank you for your advice seriously If you ever need to vent or need to just talk about anything you have a friend in me!

[Alaska1958]

Hi there, some of us have been depressed for decades, others it's more recent and for some it comes and goes. How about for you?

I've had trouble for quite a while, then in the last few years I lost the job I'd had for 16 years and my wife divorced me after 18 years. I can'tseem to get back on my fee. SSpending way too much time in bed.

[4EverMe]

Hi DepressionSucks,
It is obvious by your profile name that you're a person who places value in truth. Tell it like it is. Lol!
Depression, without a doubt, truly does suck. What's worse than depression is having to deal with it without the aid of a genuine friend. It's also hard, when you DO happen to have a friend you trust, but this friend will rarely talk on the phone. (forfeiting conversation for the alternatives of txting or facebook).
Have you known anyone who was/is this way? Well, I've almost forgotten the sound of my friend's voice, because we don't see each other, NOR do we have precious phone communication, as sadly, these have dwindled into the background of the past....
Did you say that you lost a friend of about eight years?
I'm sorry for your pain, and (((hugs))) around you. The friend that I'd referred to, of mine, I knew for close to ten. I understand how friends who've gone through so much together, become like family. It's not easy to lose a companion like this!

May I ask you what happened with this person? Is there any way possible to redeem what's been lost? (even if it takes some time to do so)? If there is a chance, I wouldn't allow it to skirt on past.

Please continue to post, at least to see if this site could be of some comfort to you. There are a lot of genuine and understanding people here. I've found some solace here, myself.

I hope the best for you. Take care, and remember
you're not alone when you're feeling depressed.

[shadowinside]

Thank you so much, that is so kind of you. The same to you!!

[Dels79]

Depression truly DOES suck. I can agree on that. Just never feel that you're on your own. Even if coming on here and talking to others, it will help ease off the pain of loneliness.

Often I find that simple little things can help bit by bit. I've been depressed on and off for roughly 18 years now and when things stress me out it hits me hard. But taking on new hobbies or joining a group or something can help too. I've found it hard to get motivated but sometimes coming on here and reading through comments can help.

I think though its good to keep in touch with others going through rough times because you can help eachother through it. You came to a good place.

[DepressionSucks]

Alaska1958-I've always had sometimes I can be happy but most of the time I just pretended to be happy so people wouldn't worry I hate being a burden on my family or people I care about I lost my job as well I'm back with my mom no car no house I'm thinking about school but to be honest I'm worried somehow that will screw up it's like when things are good for me I've been in bed as well I'm just stuck like you my friend

4EverMe-I have to be honest I never had any friends(I'll give a little more backstory later and my ex since I do need a better introduction)but my ex we always talked we did everything together

shadowinside-No problem at all my friend

Dels79-You're right so far it seems dels79 I'm going to be coming here for a long time reading all these comments show that people seem to care I want to personally thank everyone kinds words and advice and like with shadowinside if anyone ever need to talk I'm here for you all

[DepressionSucks]

Now heres a little more I was born with that and cerebral palsy I walked tip-toed so most of the kids picked on me for how I walked they all thought I was"retarded" (Despite being in normal classes and actually making decent grades by decent I mean B's and C's I wasn't a Einstein haha)Things really got worse in high school my dad had cancer which he passed away from six years later him and my mom helped me through so much and it kills me even now the man was so amazing I looked up to him and now hes gone back to high school...it seemed everyone had friends love but me i was lonely so I turned to online dating and met the amazing woman that seems to hate my guts now...we talked for a month online before calling when I showed her my picture and she made me feel so much better about myself we talked on the phone and everything all the time now the second year in she got drunk and cheated on me I forgave her because people honestly make mistakes and fast forward two months later we met I had a apartment and a full time overnight job so things were stable and i had many bouts with different things about depression mostly my fathers death but she tried helping me through them atleast we stayed together for but it's like the beginning of this year all heck broke loose my granddad who lived for 92 years passed away this man has been in my life forever it seems and now he's gone two months later I was let go from my job couldn't keep paying for my car and i looked everywhere for a new job but it was tough but I lost her because i admit it was my own fault....but I started worrying she was cheating again I knew she wasn't but I was just scared I would lose her so any male friend she had on facebook I was stalking them...I became obsessive with it because I was scared I would lose the only lover/friend in my life she thought I was crazy(Shes right I was can't deny it)and now she won't even speak to me anymore....I'm sorry for complaining to you guys but I really have nobody anymore i stay with my mom and she has her own problems shes going blind and has back problems and i can't burden her with my problems anymore I'm trying to continue on but it sucks.....