First time depressed
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First time depressed
Hello. Now, at 58, I believe I am depressed. Mostly it just seems nothing matters. Often sit for hours doing nothing.... Can't get up the steam to do things I'd really like to. Have to force myself to do what must be done. First thought when I wake up is..Damn another day to get through! My father suffered from depression and so does my youngest daughter so I know what it looks like from the outside. Now I am learning how it feels. Have had some sad times in my life but have never felt hopeless before - always grabbed the bull by the horns and solved the problem. Have put in place all the things that are supposed to work...going to an exercise class twice a week, walking outside everyday, spending time with friends, going to an oil painting class... They are all work when I feel like this but I am trying the "fake it until you make it" system. Guess just looking to SAY it. My best friend is a psychologist so I can't tell her - it would be like putting her to work; can't tell my husband - he think anyone and everyone with mental health problems just "needs to get a grip"; can't tell my daughter - she depends on me to help her and doesn't need the stress/fear that Mom feels as bad as she does. Anyway didn't mean to write a book here.
so invisible even on here where supposedly where people get it!!!!Not invisible Inabit; And I,..we do get it. Apologies for taking so long to respond. I'm dealing with a crash of my own.
But I just got done posting about being in a conversation in the middle of a crowded room and being lonely. It's funny to be alone in a room right now and feeling not quite so alone in my misery.
The best I can do right now is welcome you to the forum. I hope you keep posting because the more we learn about to, the more we can relate and respond to. There are people here who care. The fact that your here means you care too.
Than you for coming.
But I just got done posting about being in a conversation in the middle of a crowded room and being lonely. It's funny to be alone in a room right now and feeling not quite so alone in my misery.
The best I can do right now is welcome you to the forum. I hope you keep posting because the more we learn about to, the more we can relate and respond to. There are people here who care. The fact that your here means you care too.
Than you for coming.
Hi Inabit,
As Frame said, you're not invisible. Everyone on this forum has issues. So, it may take time to get an answer.
I have people that think like your husband around me. In fact, most people think like that. Some people even have the mentally "if you want to commit suicide, shut it up and do it", and they litteraly said that. Unfortunatly, mental illness is still not well seen in our society. That's why most of us have no one to talk to and are isolated with our "problem".
If I can tell you my opinion, you should talk to your friend. A friend is there to help too. Let her know how you feel about the fact that she's a psychologist and that you don't want to put her to work in your relationship. Without feeling to be to work, she can certainly gives you good advices and direct you to some help.
You know, don't wait to be to the point where you can't litterally do nothing at all, even be there for your daughter, washing yourself, eat. It seems you know lot about depression, so you know it can go as bad as just not being abble to get out of the bed...
Take care.
As Frame said, you're not invisible. Everyone on this forum has issues. So, it may take time to get an answer.
I have people that think like your husband around me. In fact, most people think like that. Some people even have the mentally "if you want to commit suicide, shut it up and do it", and they litteraly said that. Unfortunatly, mental illness is still not well seen in our society. That's why most of us have no one to talk to and are isolated with our "problem".
If I can tell you my opinion, you should talk to your friend. A friend is there to help too. Let her know how you feel about the fact that she's a psychologist and that you don't want to put her to work in your relationship. Without feeling to be to work, she can certainly gives you good advices and direct you to some help.
You know, don't wait to be to the point where you can't litterally do nothing at all, even be there for your daughter, washing yourself, eat. It seems you know lot about depression, so you know it can go as bad as just not being abble to get out of the bed...
Take care.
Thanks Frame and karolanne. Sorry I was short-tempered...feeling like this has made me so angry. Seems I worked my whole life to make sure everyone was looked after (and felt happy doing it) and now when I expected I would get my turn this happens. Will be on and will try to come when I am calm as well as when I'm desparate.
That's good Inabit;
I think it's OK to show here, how stressed you are. Best place really. We come here and use this site to support each other but also to make our flesh and blood lives more livable.
A member, not to long ago, got upset, said he was leaving, and berated the group for never being positive, for not getting better. While I don't think that's completely true, I do believe we should be prepared to see the worst from contributors. People are often close to the bottom when they reach out; and like it or not their absence hopefully means they are feeling better. We do have rules about not using triggering language, but if your feeling awful, covering it up may not help. Often letting people know how you feel gives them license to be honest about their own feelings.
Sometimes ranting here will give you the handle you need to make better choices in your daily life.
I think it's OK to show here, how stressed you are. Best place really. We come here and use this site to support each other but also to make our flesh and blood lives more livable.
A member, not to long ago, got upset, said he was leaving, and berated the group for never being positive, for not getting better. While I don't think that's completely true, I do believe we should be prepared to see the worst from contributors. People are often close to the bottom when they reach out; and like it or not their absence hopefully means they are feeling better. We do have rules about not using triggering language, but if your feeling awful, covering it up may not help. Often letting people know how you feel gives them license to be honest about their own feelings.
Sometimes ranting here will give you the handle you need to make better choices in your daily life.
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