Hello Fourm

[MatthewSullivan]

I am a 43 year old Male that has Bipolar disorder. I have had it all my life when I was a teen. I started talking in chat rooms in 1996 with AOL. I focused on helping ladies with depression and had several other ladies aid me helping other ladies with depression. I left AOL in 1998 and was talking to one person in AOL with AIM for two years. I left that person and Join yahoo in 2001 or 2003. I helped many ladies in Yahoo and meet my girlfriend in Yahoo Depression rooms. I latered married my girlfriend and continued to help other in yahoo for three years. I have been away form helping ladies with depression for 4 years. I am now back at it helping ladies with depression. I still have one teen I still talk to now and then, but she's busy with her life. I enjoy helping ladies with depression and giving relationship advice also.

[Frame]

Welcome Matthew;

It sounds like you have been successfully managing your bipolar. Is this fair to say? That's great.

I would be pleased to read some of the activities, disciplines, habits you have find most helpful.

I'm also interested in your relationship with your wife. We hear about many struggles and ruptures in relationships. It's nice to hear about success. Two questions that immediately springs to mind are: While you two were dating what would say was the most essential part of your interaction, what things did you do to make your bonds stronger and brought you closer? Were there specific things you struggled to avoid, to exclude from the relationship?

I'm also wondering what your vocation is.

Thanks.

[MatthewSullivan]

Where do I being. I have helped several ladies with depression and relationship advice. Most of the ladies that I helped where relationship advice and no longer have contact to give insight of sucess with my effort of encourgement or advice. I can only hope that the tools I gave them where the tools they used and need to help them find sucess.
Me and my wife started out in yahoo depression chat. It was about almost a year online talking, before I made the trip to meet her. After that she moved in and for 4 years we worked on the relationship. She also has depression and I have bipolar. We fought of and on for 3 to 4 years, before we started getting comfortable around each other. I had some things I had to work thru and she had some things she had to work thru, but we found ease in time and finally got married. I also wanted to give it time to make sure I was making the right decision. I also had a long prayer about her to God for 45 minutes discribing to him what I wanted. He allowed her to find me in that chat room and the rest is history. We have or days, but we work together and apologizes when we need to after fights.
The things I learned when I am off of meds is thought discpline. I have learned thought discpline works great when dealing with bipolar. I get these thoughts and sometimes I swear they are not mine thoughts. I don't know where they come from, but react on contact when I get them. 99% of them or either negative or destructive thoughts. I worked out a system to question these thoughts through a troubleshooting system that keeps them from going active actions. I do other positive things for 20 to 30 minutes, plus pray if I need to work through these thoughts. Only really bad days I have learned to take time a meditate on thoughts or mood to help me get through them. Thanks for asking on insight I enjoy sharing.

[Frame]

Thank you for your input Matthew. You give me hope.