Needing a friend

[Oceangirl]

Hi, I am new here [of course]. I've been apart of the forum world for quite some time now but never for "this" reason. For years I have been on and off sad. Some months will be great while the others not so much. When I look back at my life I've always been sad even when things looked good. Well, now things aren't so good and I'm sadder than ever. Last year I know I would have been able to get through the obstacles that are in my way but now in present time I have no close friends to share my feelings with. And I need to know people care and will actually Listen. I try to talk to friends about it but they're never sincere and only tell me what they think I want to hear. But honestly I just want someone to understand me and understand my life because it's very different from the average teenager. I am almost 17. Someone my age shouldn't be this sad. I shouldn't be this lost and I shouldn't feel this lonely but I do. I don't want to feel this way and the only way out of it is to get some support. Thanks to anybody who will listen. I will be writing in the my story section.

Xoxoxo

[Ghost]

Hi. I'm from Brazil and I have reached the apice of my depression in my teenage (I'm 25 now), somewhere betwwen 14 and 19 years old. Now I have a great comprehension of myself and have learned how to deal with it.

Depression was never gone, but understood and accepted.

P.S.: I never had professional support so maybe my point of view is not precise.

Maybe we can be friends.

[xll3]

HI!...How did you come to terms with depression.... I need a way out

[Ghost]

HI!...How did you come to terms with depression.... I need a way out

I think the first step is to get a hold on your desperation: the first thing that comes to our mind when emptiness comes is "I don't know what to do!", but that's not true, we're just giving up. So we should think about something to do and DO it, even if it doesn't work in the beggining.

The second step is admittance: try to reach the source of depression and admit it! It's not an easy task, we are, most of times, ashamed of our reasons, and people would most times laugh of them, but you are the only one completely able to understand what it does to you. So admit what it is.

The third step should be acceptance: don't struggle against sadness. When it comes, calm down and get the feeling of what it does to your mind and body. I was impressed on how my senses got better and I could take my thoughts to a deeper level. People often said you should, I don't know, watch some comedy if you are feeling sad, but I think the problem in that is that you can actually feel better AT THE MOMENT, it's not a solution, you're not dealing with yourself.

The final step should be making an agreement with sorrow: "I won't deny you, I know you are there and you need to get fed from time to time, but look, you depend on me to exist, so let's talk and see what we can do, ok?" This is the moment you should start therapy, if you can. A professional has great comprehension of how our mind can deal with depression and can mediate this conversation. If on your own, having friends is nice to help and, in order to make some, you need to lower your defenses and take the risk on trusting someone. A different point of view can help you with step 2, but it needs to be a sincere one.

I hope this helps =)

[xll3]

Thanks! Somehow i was aware of this but didnt made sence till you said it.