How to deal with friends

[jane9]

Hi, I feel very challenging to keep friendships now. I keep continue to get angry and aloof with friends because they violated my privacy and judge me. They keep telling other people about my worst challenges so they hold me in low light. For example, I've been a successful person in profession and study. I got accepted to a top university. But the university is very expensive. Since I came from a very poor family (poorer than any of my friends), I need to work very hard to pay for tuition and living cost. So my friends described me to other people that I am penniless and I did not take care of my family as I should be (I need to support my family as well since I am the main earner. But because I want to study in a world top university, I could not support them as I wanted). So now, even that I managed to graduate from a world top university that nobody in my circle could get into, they look at me pitifully whenever I meet them. To the point that I don't want to meet anybody.
The problem is things getting worse if I don't meet them. They use to be my best friends for many years and we share almost everything happen in our lives. Now I no longer share any news of my life with them. I feel hurt whenever I hear their judgements about me. They obviously feel hurt as well because People keep asking them about me because they think we are close. They start to make up stuff and tell other people negative things about me that are not true.

What can I do now? I don't want any friends any more.

[ree]

sorry to hear that. they're not true friends if they do that. Why don't you find new friends

[Helloraspberries1]

I agree with what the above poster said. You should make newer friends. I can tell its stressing you out alot.

I know it's easy to say but can you try and socialise with more people at your school or attend a group or something. I just think doing that will give you your confidence back. I know your feel happier.

The way your feeling is normal. Not just me but alot of people can relate to hoe you feel. I also struggle with making friends but I know it's making that first step to making new friends. It's always hard.

If you need support or someone to talk to you can always talk to us. Do you have a school counsellor at your school? Can you go to them or what about a teacher?

I think right need you need something to help build your self esteem. There are options for you to explore.

Also if you feel unwell or depressed still please contact your doctor and not leave it too long.

Please let us know what happens x