I'm not sure what to do.

[haley_m23]

I haven't ever been on a website like this before. I don't know what made me decide to. I've lost all my hope. I've lost the one person that I love with all my heart because of my depression and anxiety. He won't hardly even talk to me. I feel so lost. I don't know what to do or who to turn to

[nenkohai2]

This is such a hard place to be - where you are. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I've seen this sort of thing happen before (to people I love). I feel I should share a couple uncomfortable thoughts with you. I don't say it out of spite to you, but rather out of empathy for your whole situation.

How much do you rely on this person? Do you rely on them to keep you grounded and your depression at bay? Are you hoping that this person might some how change you - or help pull you out of your depression?

If any of those questions is a "yes," then you may be asking too much of that person. They have a need and a right to maintain their own mental health and if your needs cut into your friends ability to take care of himself - emotionally, mentally, physically, or spiritually, then you need to recognize this. I believe healthy relationships are built on the idea that each partner is whole on their own. Co-dependency from either partner can lead to toxicity that is not healthy.

Please, I do sympathize with you. I feel your pain in what you write. My own experiences have lead me to these opinions. I wish you all the best as you work through this time.

Kindly

n..