Okay, so you might have heard me say > "Woman are never attracted to me".
And this isn't real far off of the truth..... but I probably shouldn't say, "No women, ever".
It's just to say, no woman of whom I could find anything about them, that catches my attention.
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I am an artist, with a strong visual bias.
Now don't get me wrong, I see TONS of thin, fit, gorgeous young ladies, most of which are half my age, every single day. But never for a second would I expect any kind of relationship with them. Nor would such a relationship even work, anyway.
Instead, I look for {flirt with, and try to make things happen} with woman who are closer to my own age.... I can deal with an extra 30 or 40 lbs... glasses are okay...
I couldn't care less what anybody else thinks, but that woman just has to excite me !
She just has to have something that just hooks me ! Beautiful eyes, an awesome smile, or a voice that I just want to listen to the rest of life....
I always hear this garbage about > Well you just have to get to know them, and then maybe it will grow.....
Hmmmm. I hear that, but the way I see it is, getting to know them, and letting something possibly grow, is step #2.
#1 is, looking at the girl, and listening to her for maybe 10 seconds, at which point, something in me clicks, and says, "Wow ! This girl is freaking cool" ! In all seriousness, with my ADD, that girl needs to really grab, and hold my attention !
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The closest I've been to making something happen, was with a woman, my own age, 40 lb overweight, glasses, short hair.... But in spite of all of this, i like the lady ! And still do....
Then, last week, I had this lady approach me at the farmers market {to describe her in print, very similar to this lady I'm sprung on ^}, who just all but abducted me... straight up asked me to come to her house to cook my famous spaghetti squash for her.... wouldn't leave me until her friend practically drug her away....
But she just did absolutely nothing to excite me
Nice lady, and not terrible to look at..... just didn't do it for me.
Anyway, my friends and co-workers have occasionally mentioned that maybe I'm being too picky....
Then, the very next thing they tell me is, "Oh, but you don't want to "settle" for a woman, just because she is willing to be with you, if she is not the right one for you".....
Well, so far these have been my only two options. "Settle" for one that does nothing for me, or be lonely, and single".
Neither feels acceptable to me
Your thoughts ?