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Ok so here is why im depressed, lonley and anxious.

I can be a very fun energetic person with a great sense of humor but i need to be around people for that to happen. Right now I live alone and completely depressed because all my friends don't try to talk to me, Im always the one that says 'hi how is it going" first, I am always the one calling them but they are never the first to call me. When we do talk everything is great. But then they never invite me out either and i get depressed and anxious because I always feel I am doing something wrong, and its my fault. This gets further reinforced when people I meet at work stop talking to me when I leave. Then on bad days I sometime freak out on them because I really need them but no one seems to be there. Then anxiety attacks kick in because I assume people hate me because they dont talk to me then I get afraid to talk to them. I also have not been on a date in almost 2 years no, with no serious relationship since 2008. Online dating has not worked for me, and of course my friends seem useless on trying to match me up with someone they know and since I dont got out much I almost have no where to turn and ya I am pretty lonley. I cry a lot out of the blue, and I feel so sad that everyone is missing what I have to offer, my personality is being flushed down the toilet and no one seems to care.

I suppose this is proof that everyone ignores me and not even try to tell me why, no one is responding.....

Sorry you are feeling badly. Depression causes us to focus on ourselves too much. And people avoid that. Try focusing on other people more, getting them to talk about themselves, etc. And definitely get a good counselor who will go over the reasons why you might be left out or just feeling that way. Try doing things for other people. It will make you feel good about yourself.

Hello,

The one challenge I find with depression is it can be exceedingly hard as kellykebby mentioned to try and offer support for someone else when you feel like your drowning yourself. That being said there are many many people here who can empathize with how you feel and maybe even make a connection on some level that's helpful to you.

The chat-room is a good place to go as well as there is almost always someone on willing to lend an ear.