I Want Change, But There Are Problems
Posted: Sun Sep 08, 2013 11:47 pm
Hello everyone:
This might be long, but I wanted to talk about my current situation and what I would like to do.
I'm a 27 year old male from the state of Michigan.
I suffer from both the autism spectrum disorder as well as scoliosis as well, and as a result from that, I receive social security checks every month.
I also work at McDonald's and really hate it. I don't get paid enough and I get treated rather rough at times.
So I am looking for a change.
However, I still live with my mom who also suffers from scoliosis and receives social security disability because of it.
Because our household income isn't that great, DHS helps us with medical payments every month that would normally come out of our social security checks.
In the current situation that I am, if I were to work more hours or get a job that has better pay, both mom and I would be at risk of losing the assistance we receive from DHS. She needs it more than I do because her back condition is in very rough shape and needs many prescription drugs every month which would cost of lot of $ that we do not have if we were not receiving medical assistance from DHS. So I don't care if I lose the DHS benefits, but what I make also affects her too.
I am also about $3000 in credit card debt and it will only continue to get worse if I keep doing what I'm doing. 95% of what I get paid from both my employer and social security all goes towards bills and rent with very little to work with to do whatever I want.
Now I've been talking with my dad throughout the year about the situation that I am in and he doesn't like that I am in this situation. He told me that if I were to go and live with him, I wouldn't have to pay any bills of any sorts.
However there a few issues here.
1. Currently where I live, I am on a lease until the end of April. So I cannot make any decisions of what I would want to do until that time.
2. There are a few issues with living with dad. One is that he has had problems with drinking in the past and has tried to quit and go for as long as he could without drinking and this year, it was all going well until this past Friday when he went to a bar with his roommate that lives there who does drink often too. I don't know what got him to start drinking again, but I am really not happy about it and am thinking about confronting him about this which may not end too well.
If I moved out, I wouldn't be supporting my mom anymore, however, she doesn't receive enough in social security payments that she could not live on her own. But I cannot get anywhere different if I continue doing what I am doing or living where I'm living.
This is very hard, I want change in my life, but seems hard to do so. I don't know what to do anymore.
I would like to talk to someone and would like advice on what to do.
This might be long, but I wanted to talk about my current situation and what I would like to do.
I'm a 27 year old male from the state of Michigan.
I suffer from both the autism spectrum disorder as well as scoliosis as well, and as a result from that, I receive social security checks every month.
I also work at McDonald's and really hate it. I don't get paid enough and I get treated rather rough at times.
So I am looking for a change.
However, I still live with my mom who also suffers from scoliosis and receives social security disability because of it.
Because our household income isn't that great, DHS helps us with medical payments every month that would normally come out of our social security checks.
In the current situation that I am, if I were to work more hours or get a job that has better pay, both mom and I would be at risk of losing the assistance we receive from DHS. She needs it more than I do because her back condition is in very rough shape and needs many prescription drugs every month which would cost of lot of $ that we do not have if we were not receiving medical assistance from DHS. So I don't care if I lose the DHS benefits, but what I make also affects her too.
I am also about $3000 in credit card debt and it will only continue to get worse if I keep doing what I'm doing. 95% of what I get paid from both my employer and social security all goes towards bills and rent with very little to work with to do whatever I want.
Now I've been talking with my dad throughout the year about the situation that I am in and he doesn't like that I am in this situation. He told me that if I were to go and live with him, I wouldn't have to pay any bills of any sorts.
However there a few issues here.
1. Currently where I live, I am on a lease until the end of April. So I cannot make any decisions of what I would want to do until that time.
2. There are a few issues with living with dad. One is that he has had problems with drinking in the past and has tried to quit and go for as long as he could without drinking and this year, it was all going well until this past Friday when he went to a bar with his roommate that lives there who does drink often too. I don't know what got him to start drinking again, but I am really not happy about it and am thinking about confronting him about this which may not end too well.
If I moved out, I wouldn't be supporting my mom anymore, however, she doesn't receive enough in social security payments that she could not live on her own. But I cannot get anywhere different if I continue doing what I am doing or living where I'm living.
This is very hard, I want change in my life, but seems hard to do so. I don't know what to do anymore.
I would like to talk to someone and would like advice on what to do.