I'm lonely and depressed and I really need help.

[YuYu]

hi everyone, I'm a 19 year old kid. last year in august, my girlfriend broke up with me and ever since then my life was turned upside down.....I became very emotional, sad and depressed. I gave up on studying and as a result, I failed my college exams and had to retake the semester over and over again. I don't have many friends and after she broke up with me, I stopped talking to all of my friends and as a result, I don't have any friends now. I it may sound impossible but it's the absolute truth. Ever since she broke up with me, I would just spend my day stalking her social network accounts, like facebook, Instagram and Twitter. It really hurts seeing her not being affected by the break up, and what hurt most was when i found out she is now with another guy...sigh, seriously i actually cried when i found out.

I'm sorry guys, I'm not good at putting my thoughts into words and I'm not really good in expressing myself, but I really need advice and help. I really want have friends, true friends. And I really really want to move on. sigh but I can't seem to find a way. Evrytime I see her talking about the guy she is with now, it feels like someone stabbing my heart, it really hurts so much...sigh. I really feel like dying, I'm so damn lonely and heartbroken. Evreything is different now, I can't remember the last I was actually happy. I really miss her, the old her.

[Pilule]

Yuyu,

Every time you watch your ex on facebook of Twitter, you're reliving the break-up. Stay away from that, that's the only way you'll get over her. Don't stalk her friends to find out how she's doing. Keep her as far away from you as possible.

You probably won't do it and it'll kill you every time you do it, like when you found out she had a new boyfriend, until the day you feel good enough to do it, then you'll start to feel better.

My two cents.

[Frame]

Tell us more, YuYu, about this relationship. How long were you two seeing each other. And how often did you two see each other when you were dating.

You were pretty strongly affected. I'm guessing you were close.

[YuYu]

Pilule, yeah I know I have to do that.....I guess why I couldn't stop stalking is because I didn't have much friends and was always so lonely. And then when I met her, she would always be there for me and always would be there to cheer me up whenever I was down. And I think this is why I coldn't move on, I miss the old her. Sigh, I don't habe any close friends I can talk to so I can only talk about it here and hopefully someone would understand.

Frame, I have been together with her for ten months, and we would chat with each other on the phone every single day without fail untilmthe da we broke up. Sigh, I meet her maybe once a week.

[Pilule]

Yuyu,

You should be able to be happy without a girlfriend. If your happiness is dependent of somebody else, you'll always be miserable when your alone until you meet somebody else. It makes you a very dependent person and it's not healthy.

[Alaska1958]

I know you know this already, but yes following your girlfriend on facebook and Twitter is not going to help you. I can't really talk though, I do a number of things that I know aren't good for me, but feel good at the time. It sounds like you had a great relationship, at least from your point of view. I wonder how it was for her? My wife and I broke up last year and though I was terribly upset about it and feel used, I also have to admit that it can't have been easy for her to live for years with a chronicly depressed man.

It's vital that you make some new friends. My friends have been a huge help to me during this last year. I even posted an ad on Craigslist under the strictly platonic section and have made a few friends through that. Try a new activity, one that has a group that gets together regularly and make some friends there. Please do get yourself out there and don't sit at home and brood. Trust me, I do enough of that for both of us. But I am trying not to.