having no one and loosing something you really wanted

[cloudydaiis]

I'm 16 years old and I swear my family hates me and I don't know what to do my ex boyfriend who I was with for 2 years cheated on me the problem I have right now was recently I was 3 months pregant and I lost the baby. I had a miscarriage and looking at the point where I am now, I really wanted that baby and I still do I cry myself to sleep every night and I don't know what to do the guy I'm with right now I've been with him for 10 months and I just want a baby and he doesn't want children until were atleast 19-21 and I don't think I can wait that long, since I've lost my baby I don't want to do anything anymore I use to be on the school cheerleading team and played a lot of sports outside of school and now I don't even want to attend school, I'm currently living with my mom and my two younger siblings and I don't want to be here anymore. And I just don't know what to do anymore. The next step for me is ..... Something horrible. Can someone help me please!!!!

[Mountain_Mamma]

Wow Darlin... So sorry for your loss.. You may be going through a little postpartum depression, even though you lost the baby, you hormones had already begun to change.
Talk to your Mom, she is on your side believe it or not (I have a 16 year old I'd walk through fire for, even if she doubts me), get some help from a Doctor... Don't rush into another pregnancy until you've dealt with some of this..
Being a young mother is hard enough, and maybe your boyfriend is right to wait, plus you don't want him to feel duped or trapped, it will only lead to resentment on his part...
Enjoy your new found love for awhile, your young life, and all that comes with it.. With a baby on your hip, some doors you may want to explore, will be closed.

Hope this helps a bit Hun... Take care of you and the rest will fall into place..
To quote a country song... Sometimes God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers.

All the best.

[Obayan]

Hi. I am so sorry for your loss and at such a young age i can't imagine how hard this is for you. Let me share some of my story with you.... I lost 6 children and my husband. I had a daughter who lived, but no matter how much I wanted a baby, she will never replace the ones i lost. I know how it feels to want a baby so much you can't stand it. It aches inside of you. But please, listen to those around you that love you so much. They are trying to protect you when they should be telling you the truth. A baby is hard. A baby takes time, patience, maturity, financial responsibility and dedication. Even at 19-21 I'm not sure i would have been able to do it. For one reason... when you bring a life into the picture of your life... when you have a baby, nothing and i do mean NOTHING is ever about you anymore. What bills get paid, how they are paid, what you eat, where you eat, what time you awake, what time you go to sleep, none of it is about you or your wants anymore. Every single decision you make will be about that baby and what they need. A baby doesn't care if you only got an hours sleep before it wants to be changed or fed or coddled. A baby doesn't care if you have to go to work, or need a break, or want to go out. There are no breaks from being a parent. Not even for a second. Please, listen to those that love you and are trying to help you.