My Story

[Purduegirl]

I have not had a bad life. I had a good childhood. I don't even know if I am actually depressed. I just feel like something has changed inside of me and I'm not the same person anymore and I don't know what to do. I can't concentrate, I get nervous in social situations, and have trouble trusting people. I have never been able to keep friends and now that I am in college it is really affecting my life. Right now I am an intern at a big company and I can't focus at work and am not working to my full potential and I feel like they think it was a mistake to hire me. I've had the same boyfriend for 4 years and I don't think I love him anymore but can't let him go because he is all I have. I don't know if I should get help or even know how to get help. Any advice would be great

[Warmsoul/Jeanie13]

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My suggestion would be talk with your family doctor. Seriously, they can point you in the right direction for help.

Know the holiday time is usually rough on people, wondering if this could be part of your situation right now? Just a question.

Warmie

[dandelion]

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Hello Purduegirl,
I think its hard to figure out what makes us feel depressed, sometimes certain people have great family, great job, great social life and friends and yet they still feel depressed. I agree with Jeanie, maybe talk to your doctor (if you already seeing one) is a great idea, and if you dont have any, seeing one might be good to. And depression always makes us feel bad about ourselves and trust me i am at that position as well as i feel like i am not good in everything, but that doesnt mean that both of us, you and I cannot get away from it. We can, tell to yourself over and over again that you have all of the abilities to become a successful person and make yourself believe that you are great at what you do now. I believe they hired you because you are great at it and please believe that because its true =). And yeah, maybe this thanksgiving holiday is the perfect time for you to spend it with your boyfriend and make both of you closer to each other. I hope thing are looking up for you purduegirl

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dandelion

[shatteredhopes]

I agree with the others that checking with a doctor may be a good idea. First, sometimes things like concentration, anxiety, stress, can be reflective of a medical problem like with blood sugar or vitamin deficiency. And there are some mild anxiety meds that can help with the nervousness...so checking with a doctor sounds like a really good idea.

I'm far from a relationship expert, but I think its normal to go through down times in relationships where you don't feel you love the person, especially while you have this other stuff going on and do happen to be experiencing some depression. But reconnecting is possible sometimes. Think about all the things you first fell in love with with your boyfriend, and all his good qualities and replay these in your mind to help reconnect, and setting aside some romance time...if you really don't feel you love him anymore, forgive me for being intrusive, I would let him go gently for him and you to move on and find someone you do love. But few of the couples I have known whom I consider happy feel that madly in love all the time...you may just be experiencing a phase in the relationship as well as what you are going through in your life right now. Sorry if I crossed the line, its just my boyfriend just dumped me and he didn't handle it well and I realize he didn't love me and was just using me to have somebody...so I feel very upset about being used and him not caring about me enough just as human being to do right by me.

I'm sure you are doing better at your internship than you think. Being in college and an internship can be very stressful and you are probably worried about your future...don't be so hard on yourself. Do your best under the circumstances and let the rest go. We can control our efforts, but can't always control the results. None of us is perfect.

Wishing you light and peace and serenity in your day...