must move on

[xn728]

yesterday i had made the day mine ,tilll i came across a reply to crystalgaze,s post in phobias ,about not trusting men and avoiding them ,to care like i have done regardless of gender ,this has cut me deeply ,i thought i may feel better this morning but no ,i still bleed heavily
the trust i have shared in here close personal things i have showed you all ,how would one of my female freinds feel if i said i avoid women and did not reply to there posts ,this was a user i havent seen before ,so dont worry yourselfs my freinds it wasnt any of you ,ive seen how men treat woman ,but i wont be general ized ,for someone elses mistake ,i dont punish you my freinds ,i punish myself for being so nieve
sorry ,i feel at this point i must move on ,i keep my promises but maybe i will continue alone ,my words are here stay strong everyone ,
alone ,untrusting ,and deeply depressed ,alone doesnt frighten me,i just didnt expect to see it again ,,,,,,,,,,,,xn728

[Mich]

I am sorry you are hurting, Ken. I will carry your load today. Please stand up if you can and stay here with your friends where you are trusted and valued dearly.

[dandelion]

Again, i am sorry..... I thought by coming here i can contribute something to people and prove to myself that I have something to be proud of and again....i failed. im sorry again... I will move all of my posts here since i am only make people depressed and again thank you and im sorry

[crybaby1086]

Oh ((((Ken)))) I don't think the ladies meant to generalize. I meant to most this comment last night and I should have seeing as what is happening today. I think especially in Oinka's case what she meant by a fear of men relates to a romantic relationship. Not a fear of men in general. I have a mild fear of that myself. Of offering up my heart and having it torn to shreads. But that fear only goes as far as guys that I may be interested in romantically not men in general. I think this was the point of Oinka's post. She can correct me if I'm wrong.
Please don't leave the forum Ken, I for one would be broken hearted at loseing a friend like you.

[shatteredhopes]

((((((((((((((KEN)))))))))))))))((((((((((((((((DANDELION))))))))))))))))

Both of you, please just take a deep breath, and please neither of you leave the forum. We are all hypersenstive because we are depressed, not bad people. We do the best we can to vent our feelings and pain and to support each other the best we can.

There are often times when I've been upset or triggered by something something someone said to me or someone else, and there were likely times I upset others. NONE OF IT IS INTENTIONAL THOUGH. We are all caring people, just super sensitive because of our depression and often inconsolable and yet desperately trying to help others.

A lot of women have issues with men based on being hurt, just as a lot of men have issues with women. But that doesn't mean we can't learn a new way, a path of friendship. Besides, over the internet, does it really matter of one is a man or woman, or just a supportive friend?

All we can do is apologize when we hurt someone and go forward from there. Don't leave the forum. There are likely times when all of us will upset each other, but I for one need the forum right now and need both of your support to help me hang on, as I am sure others do too. So let us also support you.

Please stay, both of you.

[xn728]

im sorry dandelion ,please stay on the forum ,your comments were a trigger ,it dug up something long burried ,an event caused by mistrust of men ,like you here ,i was an innocent victim ,i will start my journey alone now anyway ,so you leaving the forum is friutless,i have made this journey alone all my life ,and it dosent worry me ,it seems my mind wishes my life to be spent alone and in turmoil ,the next few days will be hard for me ,i have many freinds here ,a life away from the loneliness
i reach out here and try to help others ,and the pain is great ,it seems i have lost that grasp and there is nothing else i can do here ,so please dandelion stay i asure you ,its not your fault ,my dear freinds im sorry ,it seems im losing my grasp on reallity ,ive hurt this poor person ,and im so ashamed
im becomimg almost paraniod ,i have to go now ,it hurts i cant look back
i can only leave my words ,stay safe and strong i was just a small vioce
in many many thousands ,you have each other ,your wills are strong
(((((shatteredhopes ,mich,lisa,crybaby,monty,hanging on,a5,aim ,dandelion,sorry i missed you aurelia ,crystal/onika ,warmie girl. goodnight ,best wishes ))))),,,,,,,,xn728,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,ken

[Mich]

Please don't leave the forum. You have been hurt by this trigger but we can help ease your pain; help carry your load. There are so many of us here that want you to stay. Please hear us.

[xn728]

sorry mich ,the hurt must travel with me ,stay safe mich ,,,,ken

[dandelion]

Again.......im sorry.

im sorry dandelion ,please stay on the forum ,your comments were a trigger

I 'll leave, ty

[xn728]

ive explained ,why i am leaving ,its nothing to do with your post ,dont punish yourself for something you have not done ,you will only starve yourself of the support you need so badly ,stay here or ,look at me and see what you may become ,i wouldnt wish that on anyone ,no need to be sorry ,i will say no more about this or anything now ,,,xn728