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my story
For the last year i have been feeling very down on myself. I think it first started when my parents talked about maybe getting a divorce it never happened but it was a huge impact on my family. Last year i lost my best friend in a fight and we never made up. This year i started surrounding myself with new people and i made amazing new friends i fell in love but then my best friend started dating the guy i was in love with. Me and him had connected very well in the beginning because he had suffered from depression since he was a kid. Lately me and another friend have started to fight because she is mad about the way i have been acting, i am no longer myself i always feel sad and alone. I feel like there is a pain in my chest and i always feel weak. I don't know what to do anymore i feel like i have no one. I feel like i have no reason to be upset but i am. I need to talk to someone but i hate putting it all on my friends and i can't go to therapy because i can't tell my parents it would make them even more upset. Is there anyone that could help me because i have no clue what to do anymore.
Hey fhockey97,
First of all, trust me in saying that a lot of people have gone through the same or similar experiences as you've just described. You're not alone, so don't feel that you can't seek out help from others. It may surprise you how helpful and comforting family/friends can be when you simply ask.
My advice from reading your post would be to challenge yourself to make positive changes in your life, and not focus on the grey. You have a lot to be thankful for, and if you continue to think of yourself as a victim or a cause of what has happened to you in the past, then you will only continue to be a victim. Challenge yourself to look on the bright side and be thankful for what you have. Realize that everything that happens to us shapes us, and from those experiences we can become a better and stronger person.
If you want your best friend back, then approach them about it. Perhaps they feel the same way and don't know how to make up either? Just be honest and considerate and apologize if you need to.
Don't get hung up on 'losing out' on your friend you had feelings for. There are plenty more guys out there. If your friendship didn't change then be grateful for that, and be grateful for his relationship. You never know things could always change for either of you.
If your friend is upset with how you're acting, then try being honest and approaching her about what's on your mind that's causing you to act this way. Or just tell her you have things on your mind and need time to yourself to, well, figure yourself out. Surely she will understand and want to help you out. If not, then perhaps she is not worth keeping as a 'friend'.
Lastly, I'm sure your parents would not be upset with you. Everybody falls down at some time or another, and your parents will definitely understand and want to help you out. Even if you perhaps feel uncomfortable directly talking to them about things, telling them how you feel and that you want help is sometimes all you need. Then perhaps they will find ways of helping you, through seeking out and paying for therapy for you, or through other means.
I hope this is helpful to you. I'm pretty new here, but I read your post and wanted to say something brief, then the ball just kept rolling. Comment back if you want any more suggestions. I hope things work out for you. I know you can overcome these things. Cheers
First of all, trust me in saying that a lot of people have gone through the same or similar experiences as you've just described. You're not alone, so don't feel that you can't seek out help from others. It may surprise you how helpful and comforting family/friends can be when you simply ask.
My advice from reading your post would be to challenge yourself to make positive changes in your life, and not focus on the grey. You have a lot to be thankful for, and if you continue to think of yourself as a victim or a cause of what has happened to you in the past, then you will only continue to be a victim. Challenge yourself to look on the bright side and be thankful for what you have. Realize that everything that happens to us shapes us, and from those experiences we can become a better and stronger person.
If you want your best friend back, then approach them about it. Perhaps they feel the same way and don't know how to make up either? Just be honest and considerate and apologize if you need to.
Don't get hung up on 'losing out' on your friend you had feelings for. There are plenty more guys out there. If your friendship didn't change then be grateful for that, and be grateful for his relationship. You never know things could always change for either of you.
If your friend is upset with how you're acting, then try being honest and approaching her about what's on your mind that's causing you to act this way. Or just tell her you have things on your mind and need time to yourself to, well, figure yourself out. Surely she will understand and want to help you out. If not, then perhaps she is not worth keeping as a 'friend'.
Lastly, I'm sure your parents would not be upset with you. Everybody falls down at some time or another, and your parents will definitely understand and want to help you out. Even if you perhaps feel uncomfortable directly talking to them about things, telling them how you feel and that you want help is sometimes all you need. Then perhaps they will find ways of helping you, through seeking out and paying for therapy for you, or through other means.
I hope this is helpful to you. I'm pretty new here, but I read your post and wanted to say something brief, then the ball just kept rolling. Comment back if you want any more suggestions. I hope things work out for you. I know you can overcome these things. Cheers
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